Mat leave is wonderful and hard. The second time around it’s definitely more work. The first time around, I don’t remember ever making/preparing dinner before 5pm or doing dishes for that matter. These days I am constantly multitasking and with that I fight for my personal time. I need it for myself and for my family.
On the hard days, I want to remind myself on ways to pick myself up. So here goes:
1. Consume something positive or uplifting: My go-tos are an inspiring Ted Talk, Pod Cast or listening to my summer play list. I know I’ve been discussing and trying to understand #CreateMoreThanYouConsume but when the thing you are consuming is positive and uplifting I really believe it pushes you to create something. You’ll have a smile on your face, you’ll be filled with inspiration or you’ll actually create something to deliver what you’ve learned. Here, here and here are somethings I’ve consumed worth sharing.
2. Drink water: and lots of it. When I am feeling blah, a light goes off in my head “drink more water, drink water now, finish that entire bottle and then refill it”. So without thinking I do just that. On some level I think it’s my brain or unconscious self saying, get rid of the toxins and you’ll start to feel more content.
3. Exercise: Whether it’s a stroller walk in the mall or run on the treadmill while the baby sleeps, stop procrastinating and do it. The endorphins will kick in and you’ll have an automatic smile on your face.
5. Get Outside: Fresh air does wonders. Even if it’s only 5 minutes of sitting in the warmth of the sun. The babe will be mesmerized by something in nature which will give you a few minutes to yourself :)
I have 6 more days left in my blog challenge and although I have a blog calendar I don’t have anything prepped for today’s post. And by today I actually mean yesterday. And by prepped I mean have my talking points or pictures ready. I definitely will be going back to my 3 day a week posting scheduling after this challenge is over. Not sure what I was thinking when I thought I could do 5 days a week of blogging (I remember my teacher saying that even 4 days a week of blogging is not easy). But it’s a goal I set for myself and I intend to meet it. So today’s post is more of a #DiaryEntry.
Photo taken circa 2011 in Paris after my MBA convocation
Yesterday was the mister’s MBA convocation. (If you need ideas on how to spend solo parenting time with your kid you can read this). At first Miss S didn’t want to attend because she was going to have water play day at her preschool. I was a little sad but also relieved because having her miss a celebration of her father’s achievement would be disappointing but keeping a toddler quite and still for 2 hours would not be easy. However because the forecast for the day was raining she had decided that she didn’t want to go to preschool and would attend the graduation ceremonies. Luckily, I had 2 sets of grandparents to help! …All went well except when both kids wanted me to hold them LOL. Thank goodness for my sling and strong arms :)
This morning we I had early wake up calls (thanks to our #HumanAlarmClocks). Brought the older one to our bed and she played with my hair and back so I could sleep for another 20 minutes. Managed to get her ready for the day (bathroom, dressed, breakfast and play time) and write in my journal before the baby woke up. We let the new grad sleep in 1.5 hours more before I made the toddler wake him up :)
This evening we are heading out to my parents house for a belated Father’s Day BBQ.
When I was young I would always gift my dad a handmade gift from school or girl guides. He still even has one of those gifts hanging in the garage (I think – will check next time I’m there and snap a pic). Anywhooo – here are some gift ideas for Father’s Day.
Smart Phone Charger | Beverage of Choice | Silicone wedding band | Ankle Socks | Waterbottle
We had an awesome weekend. The weather was superb and the blazing heat was welcomed because we experienced such an overcast and gloomy spring.
Friday we had wings at home and then packed up the car to get ready for the next day. We spent the better part of the day at the beach we were pleasantly surprised as to how much Miss S enjoyed herself but were perplexed as to why Miss El seemed so confused the entire time we were there. We later realized it was because we were all wearing sunglasses (and maybe she couldn’t recognize us lol).
Sunday we were at a birthday party. Backyard bouncy castle, Pizza with chip toppings and lots of kids of course.
The workweek was actually spent running sooo many errands. From doing groceries, to gift shopping, to getting last minute stuff for the day at the beach as well as planning for Miss S’ 3rd birthday.
Also I’d just like to add (so my future self can remember) that even with this list of weekly goals and regular maternity leave tasks, I still accomplish and complete many other to-do items to run and mange the house like: clean the floors, prep dinner, make lunches, do preschool drop off/pick up, general tidying, multiple loads of laundry, pay bills, claim receipts etc etc in any case here is how I did with my goals last week.
Read another chapter of the book I am reading (sadly no, I am struggling to find the right time to read – holding a book while nursing isn’t very comfortable)
Bread this week? Bread this week! (nope, and I realized i can’t commit to this goal until after June)
Take some more everyday photography shots and move photos from SD Card yep, see this post
Get my 10K steps 5/7 days next week & Work out 4/7 times DONE
Take Miss El to the Born to Read library program (weather did not permit, and parking this until the end of June)
Figure out a layout for our 2015 photo album Yep and started
Update family room painting from black on white to white on black
Put away all clean laundry
Order Miss S birthday Cake (we talked to the bakery and got the details and will be happening tomorrow)
Ok 5 out of 10 this past week. The next couple of days are all about Miss S birthday!
Read a chapter
Take some everyday/creative photography
Get my 10K steps in 5/7 days and workout 4/7 days
Tuesday Self Care: Mediate, Bath and Yoga
Put away clean laundry
Order birthday cake
Finalize day of party plan + list of things to bring
Honestly most of the days I wear leggings and a t-shirt. #MatLeaveProblems
On occasion I’ll wear something cute, but I almost always forget to get a picture Plus having two kiddos doesn’t lend well to take outfit of the day shots.
So here I am recreating what I wear in my master bedroom with a tripod. It’s not glamours in the least, but it makes me feel like me (well the me that used to take tons of #OOTD pictures before having kids)
I meditated again today. I am sure this is most peoples’ problem with meditation, in that they can’t keep their mind still (i.e. the influx of thoughts doesn’t stop). When I feel like my thoughts have taken over, I try and bring my focus back by thinking about an ocean wave continuously crashing on a sandy shore.
I also did my sun salutations. I realized that I felt more of a flow with my practice this week than last. I also immediately felt the soreness in my arms.
My last thought of the day is my buy nothing challenge. It’s been 6 days and it’s already been difficult – not sure how I’ll keep this up for 3 months. I almost convinced myself that I needed to replace my sea salt hair spray, thought I could pick up a new ‘summer colour’ for my nails and tried to find logical reasons to buy another cold shoulder top (I love those by the way). I think the feeling of buying is what I truly crave which is somewhat being settled by buying things for events (party supplies, birthday gifts etc). But I love practicing restraint rather than impulse buying. Ironically it’s very freeing.
I realized that I needed to actually meditate (not just throw it off my goals list with an excuse). I also realized I needed a bit of guidance. Thank goodness for free apps from the Appstore. I tried this one as recommended by my sister.
There was a little too much talking but I did appreciate the idea the announcer made of feeling my body’s weight and listening to the sounds around you (usually with mediation you try not to focus on those things). When my thoughts wandered, I tried to focus mainly on counting (from 1 to 10) and following my breath.
It actually felt really relaxing and I even got an idea of something to paint #The100DayProject.
Something that helped me get in the mood was actually putting on clothes to mediate in. #GetUpDressUpShowUpNeverGiveUp