3 ways to get out of that #MomLife rut

Lately and on-and-off I’ve been in a weird funk.  I’ve be snappy and rude one minute and totally loving the next.  One minute I am a multi-tasking goddess and the next I am pissed that I have to do everything.  Also, I have a general feeling of being uninspired and demotivated.   Feeling like I have fallen off the wagon in so many aspects of my life.  Looking at my to do list and then feeling unaccomplished.  Total #FirstWorldProblem slash sounding like a #Millennial  (or Xennial as I am finding out)…. I know.

I think it’s a combination of realizing I head back to the working world in 4 short months and the isolation of Mat Leave that has brought up these feelings.

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Faux Leather Leggings | Booties | Off The Shoulder Top

Outside of all that – wallowing in self pity is not a good look for me.  I mean I didn’t even want to post this publicly.

So instead of complaining I figured I would teach.  Teach myself, teach my daughters and teach any other girl, woman, mother how to help yourself when you are feeling not yourself.

  1. Try to create > consume:
    I feel the the most out of it when I binge watch something on Netflix, mindlessly scroll Instagram or eat because I am bored.  It’s literally taken me 34 years of my life to realize what it was.  On the days I don’t create or accomplish something, whether thats dinner, workout, my step count, a painting, write in my journal or post on my blog – I feel like a slob.  So I try to make sure what I create balances what I consume or ideally I create more than I consume.
  2. Comparison if used incorrectly is the killer of joy: 
    In our social media ridden society it’s to easy to get caught up with what our friends and family are doing.  What I’ve learned is that everyone is in a different season of life.  And with each season/phase come different victories and different challenges.  Navigating those ups and downs is what makes life ..life!  So as much as I would love to be in a certain place doing certain things – I have to keep grinding.  And the best way to set myself up for success is only compare myself to my past self.  “This isn’t about doing everything exactly right; it’s about doing something a bit better a bit at a time.” (such a powerful idea, although I can’t take credit for these words)
  3. Guilt-free time alone/time away:
    This is huge for me.  I always complain that I want to have time alone with the Hubz but I feel so guilty asking for help with the girls. No words or wisdom or experience here just that I need to get over that.

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Capsule Packing for Las Vegas

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I’ve always enjoyed packing a suitcase or overnight bag.  The planning, the organization, the list making – everything that goes into packing makes me feel like I’m getting ready for the first day of school.  I guess packing gives me a sense of control, which isn’t something I crave in my every day life (I’m not exactly a type A personality).

But packing as a family of 4 takes on a whole new level because now I am trying to be as minimalist as possible.

Okay, I’ll be honest, you can’t really pack minimally with kids.  I mean even if you are going away for 6 days you still have to pack 12 days worth of clothes.  Well 15 because you need back up clothes for your back up clothes 😂.  With more than one kid, diapers, wipes and all the other stuff kids are comfortable with, that could take up an entire checked luggage.

So when we starting planning for our 1st multi-generational vacation I knew that going with more than one checked suit case was more then we could handle.  I mean we have only so many hands and carry ons and backpacks work better with umbrella strollers and babies in carriers.

I had to get creative and decided to plan all outfits (included back ups of back ups), pare down the number of shoes I normally take and research as many ways as possible to be as lean as possible with our packing.

I was pretty happy with myself when all we had was one large checked luggage, one carry on luggage and one backpack for 6 days!

I figure I’d share my capsule wardrobe for Las Vegas.  Mind you I didn’t do any clubbing but considering the girls’ grand parents were with us I did plan in case we would be able to get out (we didn’t – the time difference didn’t make for easy for evenings).

Daytime outfits were needed for hanging out at the strip, shopping, checking out the free hotel attractions, going to the gym and taking a day trip to go hiking.  Evening outfits were normally just for dinners (restaurant or buffet).

I was able to make 13 outfits from the following pieces:
– 4 fancy tops
– 1 tank top
– 2 t-shirts
– 1 button up
– 1 black skirt
– 1 light weight jacket
– 2 pairs of shorts
– 2 pairs of leggings (1 was vegan leather)
– 1 pair of gym crops
– 2 gym tops
– 2 bathing suits
Accessories included: wide brim fedora, chocker, handkerchief
4 pairs of shoes (runners, converse, mid heal sandal and flip flops – should have left the converse at home).

What started out as way to save space in our luggage actually turned out to be an efficient and quick way to get dressed for different activities on our trip.

Have you tried capsule/minimalist packing on a trip?

July : Currently

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Sneaks (50% off right now!) | Jeans (DIY distressed) | Handbag | Tank

Looking forward to: The weekend, seeing my parents and Anuj’s cousins

Loving: that I’ve been able to workout consistently

Eating: Lots lentils in different forms (salads, loafs and daals obi)

Drinking: lots of water (getting up to 2L +) and instant coffee

Planning: a capsule wardrobe for an upcoming trip

Ordering: diapers, extra long iphone and charge cable

Reading: Ishmael (very thought provoking read)

What works for me: Goals, Productivity & #Motherhood

I was lucky enough to see my mentor on my trip to the city last week.  I am glad that I was able to make it happened. (I love seeing how the things I write down come to fruition #ThoughtsBecomeThings).

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Sandals (similar) | Pants | Tie up top | Chocker (similar)

She mentioned to me to enjoy my time off (Maternity Leave) because she could see the gears turning as I was talking to her about my thoughts for when I return.  She suggested to me to make a plan and set a date and then not to think about any of that until that time.  She told me to enjoy my time off (not really time off but you know) and enjoy my family.

I am – totally and completely.

Yesterday I walked back from the baby’s library program in the beautiful 24 degree weather with the sun shinning down and I couldn’t have been more content and present.

And I realized that part of me enjoying my time is having something to look forward to and something to achieve for myself.  I need this to feel like myself.  And if I don’t feel like myself, I won’t be happy.  And if a mom isn’t happy than it’s not a good thing for anybody.

So this is just a reminder to myself, to keep having goals (small daily wins and big audacious dreams) keep doing me so I can take care of myself and my family.

OOTD + Watching Documentaries about Food

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I’ve watched too many Netflix documentaries over the last 3 months.  But they are so informative / horizon broadening that I can’t help myself.  (Some of which have been What the Health, Forks over Knives and In Defense of Food).

I know people don’t understand extreme food choices like veganism. And these movies and the overall thoughts behind these docus can seem a bit pushy (especially to people who like red meat).  But I’ve always thought about being vegetarian (and eventually vegan). It all started about 10 years ago when I read this book, but I kept my thoughts to myself.

The major theme of these docus has been food/health/environment; pretty much everything good in the world is pointing to a vegan lifestyle.  I’ve been dabbling in meals here and there that are vegetarian or purely vegan (i.e. no meat or dairy).  So far the meals have been satisfying and make me feel good (not necessarily in a ‘save the world’ kind of way but ‘wow, I’m cooking in a new and different way’ kind of way lol).  Additionally not having to deal with cleaning a cutting board and knives to avoid contamination has been a plus :)

The Hubz and I are in talks about our food choices.  But for now we are just talking and I am doing a lot of experimentation and personal recipe testing.  Would be lying if I didn’t say it wasn’t fun to challenge myself in this way.

Maybe we’ll do a 2 week trial to see if we can do a vegan diet in our home or maybe we’ll become weekday vegetarians.  Or maybe I’ll find it too difficult to give up cheese and chocolate.  I see lots of discussion and research in our future.

#OOTD and a solo mom outing

Today I had my FIRST solo mom outing with my girls.  Like any mom I got prepared the night before by packing a few healthy snacks and my toddler’s kid friendly laptop as well as the diaper bag for the baby.  Miss S really helped by staying true to her “big girl” status but of course she eventually got tired of holding it in and had to be in my arms for a little bit.  I was sure to tell her how proud of her I was.

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People were so helpful.  I guess when you see a parent out numbered by their kids, it only make sense to help out! I have finally had my #ItTakesAVillage moment.

And just a tangent thought here: I realized that on Monday I had the icky feeling because I had consumed more than I created (binge watched Netflix, Instastories and way too many Youtube blogs) . It was like a light bulb went off in my head when I realized that the feeling of being drained, empty and depleted was because of a simple concept.  I ended up feeling lifted when I took care of my mind and body before bed.

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I seem to really like just writing what I am thinking with these OOTDs.  I think I’ll keep it that way going forward!