Our Halloween 2017

I know this post is super late but I wanted to get it up for #MemoriesSake.  I am not a cool Instagram mom and there is waaayyy too much sass and last minuting in this house for a coordinated family costume idea but the fact that we ALL got into the spirit was good enough for me.

Both of my camera batteries were dead so I was only able to get a few quick shots of our costume’s with the Mister’s camera phone (which was incredibly fuzzy for some reason).

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Fidget Spinner Pops Dr. Fairy Lil Kaduu & *Takes a deep breath* Daenerys Stormborn of the House Targaryen, First of Her Name, the Unburnt, Queen of the Andals and the First Men, Khaleesi of the Great Grass Sea, Breaker of Chains, The Mother of Dragons

I did however get some action shots of our pumpkin carving.  It’s the hubz chance to get creative but this year we let Miss S choose the pumpkin face design.

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And here is me pulling all the seeds out because we all wanted that salty-crunchy treat!

3 ways to get out of that #MomLife rut

Lately and on-and-off I’ve been in a weird funk.  I’ve be snappy and rude one minute and totally loving the next.  One minute I am a multi-tasking goddess and the next I am pissed that I have to do everything.  Also, I have a general feeling of being uninspired and demotivated.   Feeling like I have fallen off the wagon in so many aspects of my life.  Looking at my to do list and then feeling unaccomplished.  Total #FirstWorldProblem slash sounding like a #Millennial  (or Xennial as I am finding out)…. I know.

I think it’s a combination of realizing I head back to the working world in 4 short months and the isolation of Mat Leave that has brought up these feelings.

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Outside of all that – wallowing in self pity is not a good look for me.  I mean I didn’t even want to post this publicly.

So instead of complaining I figured I would teach.  Teach myself, teach my daughters and teach any other girl, woman, mother how to help yourself when you are feeling not yourself.

  1. Try to create > consume:
    I feel the the most out of it when I binge watch something on Netflix, mindlessly scroll Instagram or eat because I am bored.  It’s literally taken me 34 years of my life to realize what it was.  On the days I don’t create or accomplish something, whether thats dinner, workout, my step count, a painting, write in my journal or post on my blog – I feel like a slob.  So I try to make sure what I create balances what I consume or ideally I create more than I consume.
  2. Comparison if used incorrectly is the killer of joy: 
    In our social media ridden society it’s to easy to get caught up with what our friends and family are doing.  What I’ve learned is that everyone is in a different season of life.  And with each season/phase come different victories and different challenges.  Navigating those ups and downs is what makes life ..life!  So as much as I would love to be in a certain place doing certain things – I have to keep grinding.  And the best way to set myself up for success is only compare myself to my past self.  “This isn’t about doing everything exactly right; it’s about doing something a bit better a bit at a time.” (such a powerful idea, although I can’t take credit for these words)
  3. Guilt-free time alone/time away:
    This is huge for me.  I always complain that I want to have time alone with the Hubz but I feel so guilty asking for help with the girls. No words or wisdom or experience here just that I need to get over that.

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Miss El’s seventh month update

Here we are 7 months Ellie Babe.

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She is entertaining us so much right now.  If I am not cleaning up the puddle in front of her chin then I am literally changing her clothes or bibs 3-4 times a day because she’s blowing raspberries.  She is too quick to grab things (like the salt and pepper shaker from the dinning table, books or pens in my hands and even my coffee or tea mug).  She loves saying “da da” and on occasion has said “na” and “ba ba”.  No “ma ma” yet :(

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She’s always interested in what her sister is doing and loves cuddling us all.  She loves the bath so I am thinking about taking her to the pool once a week before we officially put her in swimming lessons.

She’s been eating at least twice a day – mainly because I’ve been lazy giving her lunch on the weekdays :/  So I am sure she’d take more.  It’s hilarous when she thinks any food going into our mouths is for her.  She’s really into sweet potato, banana and cheesy scrambled eggs.

We finally got her ears pierced although I was in no rush as she has an uncanny resemblance to her Nani (maternal grandmother).  I remember with Miss S, she looked too much like a girl version of the Hubz I pierced her ears ASAP lol.

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She’s really into banging things together, dancing (really its just a little lachak in her hips), claps on demand and has been initiated into the season of Fall with a few colds :(

She loves playing on her tummy and exploring things upright while sitting.  Rolls from her back to tummy and starting to turn to the side when she’s on her back – only if she’s got the right motivation (aka our iPhone).  We love encouraging her to do 360 turns while on her tummy (think: the hands moving around the face of a clock) with the right motivation which is currently a Fidget Spinner.

 

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Our visit to @CafeLandwer

Last week, the Hubz and I (okay… and #EllieHaze asleep in her car seat) checked out Cafe Landwer.  And ohmygoodness it did not disappoint.

We went for brunch but the menu is chalked full of so much goodness.

The restaurant itself has got this cute vintage yet modern looking style with Instagram worthy tiles on the floor.

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Maybe it was the sleeping baby, or the cozy atmosphere, or the fact that we hadn’t been out together in a long time but this place definitely hit the spot.  We ended up getting the Landwer’s breakfast for 2.  It came with 4 eggs cooked to our choice (we went with omelette of veggies and cheese) + a huge tray of bread and a variety of dips.  I swear I felt like royalty eating this :)

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We are definitely going to go back for the coffee and desert and maybe with Miss S to check out the kids menu ;)

35 Favourite Things #HappyBirthdayToMe

The day before yesterday was my birthday  And if you can tell by the title, I turned 35!

Initially I didn’t give it a second thought, because ever since I turned 18 I realized I always have felt like I was 16 :)

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But I figured, I’d mark the moment with a little reminder to myself of 35 of my favourite things.

1. Hugs from Miss S and EliHaze
I am grateful for when my girls wrap their tiny arms tightly around my neck and lately when Miss S tries to reach all the way around my shoulders.  I completely agree with all parents who have ever told me that kid cuddles are the best.

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2. 1 second video app
I’ve been struggling with trying to capture the special moments but also stay present with the kids.  Buuut, I think I’ve found something that may be the solution.  I used this awesome app for about 6 months.  It’s so fun to watch how our life changed in those months.  Just doing some sound edits and will be posting it soon.

3. Day dates with the Hubs
Before kids, the mister and I went out almost every night. Living downtown, we took advantage of every scene possible. The ‘Liscious events, Nuit Blanche, Going to movies after work/dinner, even a late night (10pm) gym session was a luxury we enjoyed. However now, we take serious advantage of the “day date”. I know we may have a few more years ahead of us before we can truly enjoy a night out again so we are using daycare and a kiddo napping in the car seat whenever we can!

4. My DSLR
Mad love although I am in the market for a something new :) Like this and this or this.

5. My blog
I think anyone out there who has a blog agrees. And even though I’ve questioned parts of the blogging experience – my blog is a special place for my words, thoughts, art and photographs.

6. The Library
I love walking into a big room full of books, and then walking out with a stack of books for free (for appx 3 weeks) is even better.

7. Our kitchen chalkboard
I actually got the idea to paint a wall in our kitchen from a family member who also had it in her kitchen. Sometimes we use it for our grocery list, doodles, teach a lesson to Miss S, a seasonal message, a reminder, a to-do list. But it fosters our family’s cohesiveness and creativity – which is top of my list.

8.  Kiddo art work
Whether it’s stuff that gets sent home with her from preschool or things her and I create together when her pops is in school – I love it.  I really really really hope I am instilling some foundation of creativity in her.

9. Marketing/Social Media/Millennials/Hygge
I probably sound like a big nerd but I find the above topics so fascinating – especially how they interwine.

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10.  Gratitude
It’s a habit I picked up a few years ago, but it’s still my favourite mind recharging tool. (Now if only I can get into meditation)

11. Easy green smoothie
Handful or two of baby spinach, one chopped up pear, a few splashes of lime juice and teaspoon of maple syrup – the EASIEST greens smoothie eeevvaaaa!  Also quick add ons for my weekend smoothie: cinnamon, ginger (fresh with peals on), a banana, coconut water, hemp hearts, celery, cucumber #Slurp

12.  Moleskin planner
I’ve mentioned this a few times, I am kind of planner and journal obsessed.  But the Moleskin planner is my current fav.  It’s a a one or TWO year planner with a SOFT COVER!  It has lined pages beside a weekly page, tons of simple stickers, monthly calendars, free pages and a pocket.

13. The Social
Love this TV show.  Especially when I was using the gym on my work lunch break.  I can break up the work day to watch it lol

14. PodCasts
I know they’ve been around for a while, but I only got into them recently.  It’s such an EASY way to get information without having to look at something (i.e.: a screen).  I started this one recently after reading this book. Other favs include: Richroll, The Millennial and the Ted Talks.

15.  DIYing
Probably the coolest concept.  Growing up I didn’t really have anyone role model to me what a DIY was so when I started planning my wedding and realized it was thing I was hooked.  I do it a lot from party decor to house hold stuff.  Somethings I want to try in the next year: rope basket in different shapes and sizes (thinking small one for the front door key / phone spot and something larger for Miss S’s room)…aaanndd maybe this too.

16.  Fresh roses on our coffee table
The house can be a complete disaster (which it normally is) but when I see the fresh roses on the coffee table – I feel like I am in a hotel lobby or in someone who’s house is clean and spotless LOL

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17. Reading Blogs
I think I’ve said this before but blogs (currently and more specifically lifestyle blogs) are so inspiring and motivating.  I’ve been reading blogs for over 10 years now – The one blog I used to read/interact with is no longer around, but the writer was a sweetheart and so relatable. That said, with social media the past time of ACTUALLY reading the blog posts is now a long lost hobby I feel.

18.  My faux Marble table top
I saw a DIY for this in the summer and it was the coolest thing so I made one.  Theeennnn I realized I could probably just swap out a table top from an actual table (maybe something from Ikea or Target) and actually have a “marble table”.  In any case it’s perfect for clean background / flatlay shots that I love taking and it cost me less than 10 bucks!

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I think a few years ago when 10K steps a day became a thing I didn’t catch on.  But the older / wiser I get I feel like walking is a misunderstood form of physical activity.  I realized this by starting the BBG program (which I didn’t finish – twice now) I love the gym, I love weights and I love running but I am starting to fall in love with walking. I’ve been going back and forth between my phone and my husbands fitbit flex (which I gifted him but he doesn’t use lol).  And some days when I am feeling really motivated, I walk circles around my house just to “get my steps in

20. My Foam Roller
I first started using a foam roller in 2012, but it should have been sooner.

21. This photograph is by far my fav photograph from this year.  You can find it on my Etsy shop too!

22. Doing arts and craft projects with my daughter
I am legit that IT analyst corporette/Mat Leave mom by day and that wannabe DIY/Craft Mom all the other times of the day lol.  But I wouldn’t have it any other way.  Now just gotta find a way to do more DIYs and crafts in the day :P

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23. Going to the gym on my lunch break
I never thought I would be one of those people rushing to the gym to get a workout in during my lunch break – but it’s been the best decision for my lifestyle (as a working mom).

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I’ve been using it since 2012 on my personal account and since 2015 as an extension of this blog.  It is still by far my favourite social media site.  I always find motivating and intriguing people to follow and I love scrolling my own feed to see all the cool things I’ve been up to/pictures I’ve been able to capture.

25. Our neighbourhood
All the parks and green space – serious game changer.

26. Yoga / Sun Salutations
I don’t do it enough but it always makes me feel better.  Now next year I need to get into meditiation.

27. Facetime
I know this is super old technology but it’s major thing holding me back from getting anything other than apple products.  Plus – It’s an awesome way to talk to grandparents, cousins and friends who are not close by.

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28. Loaded Oatmeal
Although I haven’t had oatmeal in a few weeks I love love love personalizing it and making it into a hearty meal or very filling snack. Some of my fav toppings are: hemp hearts, hazelnut almond butter, cacao nibs/dark chocolate chips :)

29. Wholewheat toast with melty pb, banana and chia seeds
I would eat it everyday.

30. Intention/Minimalism
Being more aware of what I am doing/eating/thinking/saying has allowed me to be more conscious of my consumption.  And that awareness is only something a 35 year old can get :P

31. Giving up chicken (and bacon!)
I have never been so proud of myself then I have these past almost 4 months.

32. Journaling
Whatever form it is in, i.e.: this blog, bullet journaling or even in a folder of word documents.  The process and practice is very invigorating to me.

33. Red nail polish & Red lipstick
Honestly someone just perma-stain my nails red because it’s truly the only nail polish colour that I can keep on my nails for longer than 3 days :P

34. The words “I am”
Totally related to being intentional these words are really powerful.  I recently read that chanting the words “I am, I can, I will, I do” during meditation is probably more doable / powerful than focusing too hard on breathing.

35. Mind Maping
Getting all your thoughts out on a topic or project is so freeing!

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How a Desi family celebrates Canadian Thanksgiving

We have officially entered that time of year where every family event imaginable occurs one after the other after the other.  Let me break it down for you.

Our wedding anniversary
Husband’s birthday
Rakhi

My sister/brother in laws wedding anniversary
Thanksgiving
Karva Chauth
Diwali
Tikka

My Birthday
My Dad’s Birthday
My brother in laws Birthday
Halloween
My Mom’s birthday
My sister’s birthday
Christmas
NYE

I colour coded it to display events broken down by month.  That is August, October, November then December.  And sometimes this crazy thing is that events may fall on the same weekend or one day apart during the work week or even on the same day!!!! (This year Thanksgiving was the day after Karva Chauth and Diwali is on my birthday).  Also I forgot to mention that majority of these celebrations are celebrated twice (one with my family and once with my in laws).  So undoubtedly it makes for a very busy and intense few months.  It takes a lot of brain power, planning and calmness to make it through these months.  

Now if you aren’t Indian (aka Desi – the word used in the title of this post) you probably won’t know what Diwali, Karva ChauthTika and Rakhi are. 

Anyways on to our Thanksgiving celebration.

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This was my first time hosting.  It was kind of oxymoron because the day after I fasted for my husband we were cooking a faest for 8 adults (well a few items for that feast – we had help because it was kind of a potluck).  We had my parents, my sister and her hubby and my cousin, his wife and their kid – along with us and our mini girl gang.

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On the menu was:

Light Appies
veggies
breadsticks
melba toast
3 homemade dips (Roasted red pepper, hummus and tapenade

Dinner
1 small chicken
10 tandoor drumsticks
Mini corn
Brussel Sprouts
Salad
Vegan Mash Potatos
Spicy indian pasta
Stuffing
Gravy

Dessert
coconut vanilla bean nice cream
mini vegan apple pies
our peanut butter favourite cookies.

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