Spend a self-care day with me!

Posted on April 7, 2024 by Bhanu Misra Marya

Leaning into your self care routine is essential to being more productive BUT can help in elevating your divine feminine energy. #SayLess

We all have those days where we feel like we should push through the exhaustion and be productive.

But then there are days when you sleep in (not by choice), feel decision fatigue with every little thought and feel overwhelmed by the thought of your to do list.

The way to circumvent getting to any level of burn out (like listed above, because they are both a form of burn out) is to have a regularly scheduled self care routine.
Or in my case self care day! These happen very rarely and are usually caused by not making self care a natural part of my day. So I took the day to lean into myself, be self obsessed and get things done that would feed my soul.

So …Join me on as I take a self care day!

Although I completely missed my morning routine (journal, meditate)…My day started with a healthy breakfast

My go to oatmeal right now is half cup of cooked steel cut oats, 4 strawberries, 1 banana, quarter cup of blue berries an a tablespoon of maple syrup.

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I have an awesome life partner who noticed me working too hard several weeks prior and booked me a 9am full body massage!

It was the perfect release after many weeks of half marathon training and general life pressures.

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Since I was out, I figured I might as well get some errands done. I did a Fedex return and dropped off some overdue books to the library!

I ended up spending time at the library, perusing books for future readying, searching Pinterest for my vision board and checking out books for the girls #MomLife

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I went home and made myself a healthy nutritious lunch: scrambled eggs, edamame, roasted potatoes and broccoli and a home made alioli.

With lunch I watched some Modern Family. I ALWAYS re-watch shows (SATC, Friends, Seinfeld and now Modern Family) because I do not have the bandwidth to start something new.

I let my food digest while I worked on my vision board and then got a workout in: 30 min run followed by a 20 min full body/no repeats tabata.

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Full transparency I watched a few of my fav YouTubers while I worked out (ie: Tam Kaur, Melanie P Cruz, Holly B Fitness) – I love motivational inspo and could watch these creators on repeat.

Immediately followed that up with an epsom salt bubble bath …and yes the bubbles are MANDATORY ;)

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I made good use of my soak by reading. I try and read 10 pages a day and I’m currently reading “The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People”. I love self dev books, but try to balance them out with some fun fiction tool.

By the time I got out of the shower, I had about 30 minutes before I had to pick up my kids so I did a quick clean or my desk. Switched up my set up and deep cleaned all the surfaces.

It was a much needed spring clean.

The rest of the evening was spent being a parent but I managed to finish the evening with a brain dump in my journal (released a lot of thoughts/emotions), had a herbal tea and slept early!

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Hope this inspired you to add some self care to your day, or take a day all together for yourself!

Outperform your 2023 self

Posted on January 3, 2024 by Bhanu Misra Marya

I have a few priorities and activities in the next few weeks so I’m not yet cramming in trying to create a vision board or create a word of the year. (And hey if you are, that’s cool too – read more about My Vision Board process here) But true to myself and my interest of the art of leisure and mental fitness, I wanted to share a few ways we can all out perform our 2023 selves!

Of course these techniques are not reserved for Jan 1, you can do them any time so I wanted to share as they are very useful.

Develop these Mindsets:

If 1000 people win, I AM ONE OF THEM.
If 100 people WIN, I AM ONE OF THEM.
If 10 people WIN, I AM ONE OF THEM.
If 1 person WINS, I AM THAT ONE.
If NOBODY wins, I DIED TRYING.

Develop New Healthy Habits:

It’s very important to have productive habits because they will turn into routines. Motivation can fade, and that is when discipline prevails.

Here are example of healthy habits:

write specific goals down for the following day before bed.
Journal & evaluate your day before bed.
Sleep early or get a good night’s sleep.
You are aware of your bad habits, change to the opposite.

Get 1% Better Daily:

This is MY FAV technique! Prioritize incremental progress over perfection. Don’t get lured into the fantasy or “fast result”

Knowing this will keep you consistent.

Some high valued 1% skills include:

Read for 10 pages daily
Learn for skill a least 10 min a day
Meditate for 5 minutes
Exercise for 1 hour
Create art daily (photography, doodling counts)
Reflect on your day
Practice gratitude

Prioritize Physical & Mental Health:

Add activities that makes you feel good physically and mentally to your routine.

Get some outdoor time daily
Journal everyday
Eat clean & drink 2-3L of water
Go on solo & friendship dates
Hang out with family/loved ones.
Read a self-dev article
Use diffusers or scented candles in your home
Clean your space (do a quick tidy)

Diversify your income streams:

Making money and more specifically women making more money is good for society and thr planet. In 2024 consider upskilling, changing jobs, seeking high-paying clients or even a side project that your are passionate about. Start small but stay consistent. Not only will there be a dollar amount change but also you’ll be developing your always learning attitude.

Get a new certificate your career field
Digital Marketing
Content Creation
Sell your art on Etsy
Influencer marketing
Audience building
UI/UX Design
Data Analysis Skills
Master No-Code

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Remember to lean into your Divine Feminine Energy

Posted on November 29, 2023 by Bhanu Misra Marya

Sometimes women get stuck in their toxic masculine energy. This can be because of many factors but it all comes down to our fast paced lifestyle, being out of sync with the moon cycles, lack of community and not using our hands (aka holding a tiny black screen all day!).

Which manifests for some women as:

feeling stressed all the time
being in flight or fight mode for years
operating from a point of fear
the need to control everything

But it’s very easy for us women to return to our natural state and divine feminine energy.

Here are 3 ways to nurture your Divine Feminine and call back your natural receiving energy.

Be creative – This means making something with you hands. Can be art, can be a meal, knitting, writing/journaling, doing your make up/hair
Spend time in nature – Being within the trees, walking barefoot in the grass, try to aim for 10-30 minutes in the sun and within the trees. We need to do a more concerted effort to reconnect with mother nature.
Learn to say no – As women we often obligated to do things for others, take care of others and put ourselves last on the priority list. We often feel bad saying no and feel like we need to handle more than we can – it creates bitterness and resentment. Start practicing saying no today. It will be the first step in healing the the wounded feminine.

What is Human Design?

Posted on October 3, 2023 by Bhanu Misra Marya

Have you heard of the “Human Design Chart”? (aka Human Design, HDC, Body Graph).
Looking at the picture you may think it’s some sort of robotic humanoid. Well it’s not robotic, but it does have everything to do with being human and how to understand our whole human system so we can live our best life.

The best definition I’ve heard is that Human Design is equal parts practical and woowoo.
Human Design can be used as a target operating model for a person on how they can live in alignment with their truest self, how they make decisions and what gifts they are meant to give to the world. It’s both helpful to the self but also to people you work and live with (think business teams and families). Interestingly, the only pieces of information required to build your body graph are your birth date, time and location.

I’ve been learning more about my HDC for the last 2 years and I think I’m ready to share more about what I’ve learned about my own chart. Check back soon to learn more!

How nature promotes flow state

Posted on September 26, 2023 by Bhanu Misra Marya

Being in flow state is when you feel like everything is aligned. Your day is effortless. And even if it’s not, you have an inherent trust that everything will work out for the best.

Being in the flow state means you are in the zone. And being the in the zone means the world is your oyster. You put your mind to something, work hard enough and it’s yours… #manifestation

There are many things that can help you get into flow state:
– Deep Breathing
– Meditation
– EFT Tapping
– Dancing
– Distract yourself from what’s taking your peace
– Be creative
and of course…getting outdoors and enjoying nature’s beauty!

One thing about our modern fast paced society is that we have forgotten about including nature and leisure in our day. Something I’ve realized myself only recently. Whether it’s working in a concrete jungle and not getting out for some sun. Or being so busy working from home that the only time I get up from my desk is to do school pick up! It was about 2 years ago that I really felt like there was a mis-alignmnment (between my soul & body from nature) and randomly (well not a coincidence) stumbled upon the benefits of forrest baths.

Forrest baths is a Japanese practice of relaxation – simply put its a method of being calm and quiet amongst the trees.

After I read more and researched this practice – I began changing my habits. Whenever, I was dealing with certain emotions (stress, fear, sadness) – I would force myself to go for a walk. And specifically make sure I walked in a forest. I do my best to immerse myself in the forrest. I would go so far as to think about the architecture of the tree. It’s connection to the earth (ie: what the roots looked like, how far they went into the earth, how they connected to the roots of other trees), what the trees look from the top or look up at the trees and lastly imagine the energy flowing through these trees.

Of course it does not need to be this involved. Some days I would just sit on the steps outside my house, and even sometimes I would just open the windows in my room.

So if you are finding yourself sitting for long stretches of the day indoors, considering being intentional about stepping outside once in a while. And if you want to try forest bathing – use the 3 tips to get started:

Walk slowly in nature or be still. This will help you pay attention to your surroundings and really taken in the natural beauty.
Use your senses to experience. Make note of the scent, the colours, how the light is shinning. Focus on one sense at a time.
Savour the beauty. When something catches your eye, take a few extra moments to truly appreciate it.

6 ways to maintain your sanity while achieving your goals

Posted on August 13, 2023 by Bhanu Misra Marya

The internet has been a buzz for several years with words like #BossBabe and #She-EO – all of which sound incredibly hazardous because as of recently they are also followed by themes of burnout and mental wellness.

I love being ambitious and setting goals that I work towards. But I also strive for balance and grace. And I think being both a mom (at home) and a mentor (in my corporate career) I feel compelled to underline the truth: give yourself grace because you can have it all…but not at the same time! Sharing my suggestions below, with a mini recap of some outfits I wore on vacation recently (you know me, all about the inspiration & motivation!)

Plan ahead and prioritize: Whether it’s on a Sunday for the week ahead, in the morning before things get going or a Friday afternoon brain dump. Take time to think about what you need to focus on and figure out what needs to get done when. You plan to fail when you fail to plan – check out my digital planner page on Etsy if you are looking for a great planning tool.
Time Block your schedule: whether its timeblocking your day or your week, figure out what you want to work on when instead of trying to multi task. Even better, try and fully complete the work you planned on before starting something new. You’ll get a natural dopamine kick and you also won’t feel scattered from having too many unfinished tasks on your to-do list at the end of the day.
Let the Pomodoro timer be your best friend: I’ve said it before & I’ll say it again. When you feel stressed or anxious about doing something – set a time for 20 minutes and do as much of that task in time alotted.
Take breaks (both physical and mental): This is something I learned from running but it applies to everything! Literally schedule it into your gCal or planner. I always block my workouts and my lunch, but now I need to add a morning and afternoon walk.
Give yourself grace: Sometimes we all need a reminder. Ambitious people tend to be perfectionists, but it’s okay because you can’t overwhelm yourself and do your best work – it just doesn’t work that way.
Release limiting beliefs: Sometimes we feel guilty for doing less, not doing things fast enough or not doing it right the first time. It’s important to work through that (everyone’s journey is different) – but it all cases, those ideals need to be demolished! Knowledge is power, and these book recommendations can help :)

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