OOTD + Random Thoughts

Honestly most of the days I wear leggings and a t-shirt. #MatLeaveProblems

On occasion I’ll wear something cute, but I almost always forget to get a picture  Plus having two kiddos doesn’t lend well to take outfit of the day shots.

So here I am recreating what I wear in my master bedroom with a tripod.  It’s not glamours in the least, but it makes me feel like me (well the me that used to take tons of #OOTD pictures before having kids)

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Top (similar) | Jeans (similar) | Booties (similar)

I meditated again today.  I am sure this is most peoples’ problem with meditation, in that they can’t keep their mind still (i.e. the influx of thoughts doesn’t stop).  When I feel like my thoughts have taken over, I try and bring my focus back by thinking about an ocean wave continuously crashing on a sandy shore.

I also did my sun salutations.  I realized that I felt more of a flow with my practice this week than last.  I also immediately felt the soreness in my arms.

My last thought of the day is my buy nothing challenge.  It’s been 6 days and it’s already been difficult – not sure how I’ll keep this up for 3 months.  I almost convinced myself that I needed to replace my sea salt hair spray, thought I could pick up a new ‘summer colour’ for my nails and tried to find logical reasons to buy another cold shoulder top (I love those by the way).  I think the feeling of buying is what I truly crave which is somewhat being settled by buying things for events (party supplies, birthday gifts etc).  But I love practicing restraint rather than impulse buying.  Ironically it’s very freeing.

Weekend Activities + Weekly Goals (Part 2)

Another busy weekend is over.  On Saturday I attended a dear friend’s bridal shower. I did take Miss El with me and thankfully she was on her best behaviour.  Today we celebrated a few birthdays and anniversaries on my in-laws side and then had a friend visit us and meet out littlest babe.  We winded down this evening with a glass of wine and finished watching this movie.

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Shoes (similar) | Jacket (50% off here)| Chocker (similar)

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Last week I was overly ambitous and ended up having to deal with rain, tendonitis and more rain, but here is how I did:

  1. Go to the Born to Read library program with my friend and our daughters DONE!
  2. Decide on a bread recipe to make
  3. Plant my tomatoes DONE: blog post in the works
  4. Work out 4 times this week 1/2 DONE: Worked out twice?
  5. Hit 10K steps 5/7 days 1/2 Done: (3/7 days I hit 10K or more)
  6. Journal (in my 52 lists and 5 minute journal) 1/2 Done: harder than I thought
  7. Finish my EdCal for May DONE: blog post in the works
  8. Listen to more music in the house DONE: for the first few days then there was a nap strike
  9. Mediate
  10. Finish a book

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I didn’t get everything done, but it really helped me to stay focused on things I wanted to do without letting the weather or mom duties stop me.  For instance, I started planting the tomatoes at some point in the afternoon but didn’t actually complete the task until the evening of the next day (that included photographing the process).

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So here is next week’s list.  I think 10 “to-dos” is a good number so I’ll continue with that.

  1. Finish reading my book (I am only 1/4 of the way in)
  2. Decide on a bread to make (get recipe list)
  3. Hit 10k steps 5/7 days
  4. Workout 4/7 times this week (cardio, RT/ST, FR, stretch)
  5. Journal (52 lists & 5 Minute journal)
  6. Meditate
  7. Update Etsy listings with my scrabble prints
  8. Lunch & Playdate with mom friends
  9. Finish my TY cards
  10. Try a new recipe for dinner.

Weekend Activities + Weekly Goals (Part 1)

This past weekend was a special one for us, we celebrated Miss El’s 40 days.  I think most cultures (including western medicine) consider that both mom/baby’s recovery and adjustment to life occurs over the first 40 days.  There are some extreme views about it but for me it was really about resting, get spoiled by my parents/in laws, bonding with Miss El and adjusting to life as a family of four.

And by bonding, I mean nursing!  I am currently all about outfits that allow me to feed the babe easily… that said I have never purchased a nursing top in my life! (ha!)

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During this time, I gravitate towards loose/flowy tops, button ups (obvi) and chic leggings to keep me feeling styled even when I got a babe on the hip.  What else works best for me? A tank top I can easily pull down for feedings.

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Shoes (similar)| Leggings (similar) | Tank (similar) | Top (old)

I am feeling pretty ambitious for this week so thought I would list out some things I want to get accomplished!

Goals for Week:

  1. Go to the Born to Read library program with my friend and our daughters
  2. Decide on a bread recipe to make
  3. Plant my tomatoes
  4. Work out 4 times this week (LISS, Resistance Training, Stretch/Foam Roll)
  5. Hit 10K steps 5/7 days
  6. Journal (in my 52 lists and 5 minute journal)
  7. Finish my EdCal for May
  8. Listen to more music in the house
  9. Mediate
  10. Finish a book

Cold Shoulder and Grace

I love that time of year when the weather is starting to warm up and I look to my closet to see what summer pieces I can bring out again.  My eyes usually go to my shoe closet because I am most excited to put away my boots.  However, this year I am all about the “cold shoulder”.  I was really into it at the end of the summer but a growing belly only makes you long for clothes you cannot wear LOL

I used to be pretty embarrassed of my “swimmer arms” but over the years I’ve come to accept and appreciate them.  Learning new ways to work out/resistance train them and finding outfits that flatter those areas also helps.

The tops that work best for me have spegetti string straps and I don’t have to worry about a wardrobe malfunction :)

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Shoes (similar) | Bag | Jeans (similar) | Top (similar) | Necklace | Rings (similar) | Watch

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I hope my girls can look towards my confidence and understanding of self so they too can learn to love all of themselves.

Mixing Patterns & Mom Confidence #StyleTheBump #OOTD

I realized I have a few long lost #OOTDs from the last nine months so I figured I’d share them.

I didn’t buy much clothes this time around and with the cold weather I almost only lived in maternity pants or leggings.

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There is something that has been on my mind: I think there are some women who are born with the “mom gene”.  And then there are women (like me – ok I hope like me) where motherhood takes a little more time.

Even though I already have one kid (so I should know what’s coming) there are still some things I don’t remember, that were unexpected or things that were down right difficult!

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Leggings | Booties (old) | Purse (similar) | Shirt (similar) | Vest | Necklace

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Almost 7 months pregnant in this picture

I, like most people, could easily sing a sad song about it (and sometimes that is what I do) but I believe that it would be a better use of my time and energy to think about how I can turn myself around.  The days are long but the years are short as they say.  So I thought I would talk about what I do to make me more confident as a person and as a mom.

1. Fake it till you make it: My number one go-to when I am confused and lost about what I am suppose to doing for a particular mom task, for a certain day or life general LOL. I am a believer in just putting your head down and getting through what you are dealing with.  But, if you need to take a minute to let the stress set in, than take that minute… but then move on.  Put that energy, light and love into doing/attempting to do what needs to get done….if the time is there and it’s going to pass you anyway – it’s best to keep doing.

TLY_OOTDStripesNavyGreenVest32. Take time for yourself: This is such an important idea.  #SelfCare for mom’s especially is a must and priority every damn day.  Whether that means taking a shower, working on your craft, going for a walk, getting your nails done etc.  Take time EVERYDAY for yourself.  I myself like to make sure my nails are on point, I do something creative (photograph or write) and if I am feeling really ambitious check some things of my personal to do list!

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3. Spend time with your kids:  Being a mom is no joke.  There are diaper changes, daycare germs, dinner time, reading the same books 100 times, discipline and a million routines. All of this can really make you feel exhausted (especially on a good day).  But outside of this, being a confident mom can take more shape when you spend quality time with your littles.  It builds a strong bond and also allows you to learn them inside out (and not within regular mom duties). I like to be completely present when we are having dinner, reading books before bed or playing with my kiddo when she gets home from pre-school (essentially that means she has my complete attention!)

3. Let go of the #momguilt:  I am GUILTY of this (pun intended).  There was some things  I didn’t take into consideration when baby # 2 would arrive.  Like conflicting nighttime routines and nursing schedules.  This literally made me feel like $h!t because I couldn’t be there for my big little when my little little needed me. That – along with some other unexpected stuff…  and in sets the mom guilt. Mom guilt is all consuming so I had to let go of that real fast – for myself and for my kids.

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4. Forget the audience:  This time around we got to spend more time as a family and a new family of four.  Which turns out to be super important, especially as you need time to figure out your new normal.  Having people around will only delay your family bonding.  So set boundaries and be selfish with your time.  Thankfully we were more aware of our obligations and expectations (being South Asian and all) and planned accordingly.

5.  Make your own decisions: Advice comes fast and furious and doesn’t stop just because your kid is applying to university programs.  If you are wishy washy about decisions people will force their opinions on you.  Find a “statement” (read: rebuttal) that works for you and use it.  Even if your decision doesn’t work out initially you can try something else without having to let anyone know – you are doing what works best for you and your family.

Last thing I wanted to say (and maybe more so as advice to myself) is simply to OWN IT.   We all make decisions and sometimes the journey is tougher than we expected.  The best thing we can do is stand up and keep going.  Because there is always someone watching :)

Valentine’s #LookBook (Toddler edition)

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Valentine’s is just around the corner….♥

I’ve planned a cute (read: super easy with lots of hearts) breakfast for my little fam bam.  The kiddo’s preschool valentine’s are almost ready to go. Aaaaand I hope the hubz got my flower order correct ;)

Outside of that, thought I’d share some sweet toddler outfit ideas for valentine’s.  I particularly love the red cold shoulder top and the idea of pairing that with the tinniest pair of distressed boyfriend denim!

And of course we always need to add just another tulle skirt dress and graphic tee to our collection!