7 ways to stop self sabotaging

Posted on April 13, 2023 by Bhanu Misra Marya

I always say, life is a journey. Sometimes you are running top speed through the valley and other times you are grasping for oxygen at high altitudes. Most times you are going steady through long stretches of mini climbs and plateaus.

But one thing I’ve started recently saying to myself is that I’ve got to live life like it’s rigged in my favour. And that statement alone has made me realize that through self and situational awareness – you can quickly see what activities and behaviours are supporting you and what are self sabotaging you.

Below I share 7 ways to stop self sabotaging yourself. Whether that’s in personal relationships, with you 9-5, business pursuits or personal goals – consider how you may be engaging in these activities and how it’s effecting how you live your life.

💫 leave any situation where you are not valued

💫 deprioritize your mental wellness for anything

💫 what everyone else is doing

💫 disregard your feelings, instinct, needs or emotions

💫 showing up as someone you are not

💫 stay on a path just because it’s the path you are on

💫 live as someone you are not

4 quotes to inspire your Art of Leisure journey

Posted on February 15, 2023 by Bhanu Misra Marya

I’ve known from a very young age that I wanted to prioritize leisure over everything. I just didn’t know what to call it. And it’s not that I lacked ambition, but rather the opposite. I’ve always wanted to maintain intentional balance in my life: from family to pursing heights in education, to career and fitness. The art of leisure gives you the opportunity to excel in everything without feel like you are missing something.

So what exact is the art of leisure? Well I guess we have to start with what is leisure. Leisure should be considered the main activity (and not a sedentary one). Leisure is the functional engagement in pursuits that create a sense of contemplation, silence & introspection. Leisure is pursued for its own benefit instead of some higher goal. In our current society, work is prioritized over leisure and almost everything has been converted into a side hustle. But the art of leisure is about doing things that make you feel good without necessarily delivering value to anyone else or provide you with monetary gain.

The art of leisure is a definitely a practice and sometimes a good quote can get you in the right mindset to begin you practice. Be sure to save these to Pinterest or better yet print them and put them around your workspace as a reminder to let your idle time be leisure time for yourself!

A day in my life – on a Friday

Posted on January 18, 2023 by Bhanu Misra Marya

I love reading people’s day in the life posts & vlogs. I find learning about other people’s daily routines and schedules interesting. So much so, that I’ve decided to share a typical day in the life of my own. Albeit a Friday!

Friday’s are a usually a lighter day of meetings which means I will try to add some tasks to get ahead (or catch up), admin and personal activities (related to my goals or life in general).

I also feel that #DITL posts need context. I have a corporate career, happily married mom to 2 kids with busy extra curricular schedules. But I’m also creative (running this blog, my Etsy store and pursing creative hobbies to ensure I build skills), habit stacker who is very intentional about how I spend my free time and what content I consume.

That said, there are a lot of things in my day that are non-negotiables, almost to the point that I don’t even think about doing them anymore – they just get done. (When people ask how I make the the time or prioritize my non-negotiables, I don’t know what to say other then “it’s like when I get up I brush my teeth…I do these things because I do them).

Anywho on to my Fri-yay!

632am – Today I was working from home but I still I meditate right after awaking. I love that early morning meditation. I feel like it works wonders for me. Following that, I put on my apple watch, drink a sip of water and journal. I get my AM hygiene routine out of the away before the rest of the house wakes up.

7:05am – Kids alarm goes off and I’ll hop on over to see how they are doing. There is usually some fight that needs to be broken up (slammed door, hogging the sink etc) but after that is diffused I’ll head downstairs to start breakfast and pack lunches (the hubby and I will rotate that job daily so if I’m not downstairs, I’m helping the girls get ready).

750am – Kids lunches are packed, breakfast is mostly eaten and we are out the door on the way to the bus stop!

8:10am – As soon as we get back from school bus drop off, I start my workout. I’ll warm up for a run with my air buds playing affirmations. This is a new routine and I find it works really well. As for my run, I have a daily rotation: 20 min, 3km or 4km. During that time I’ll watch a TedTalk or a podcast on youtube. Because it was Friday – I decided to treat myself to a little Netflix and a long run.

8:45am – I like to do a little resistance as well, so thats when I’ll turn on a motivational podcast (well slightly aggressive motivational speeches. (Think: Zig Ziglar, Coach Pain, Eric Thomas etc). I rotate between legs, full body and multiple arm days per week. After the long run, I wanted to cool down and stretch today.

9:00am to 11:45am – After a quick breakfast, I jump straight into meetings. But because I documented my day on a Friday – my meetings are light. So I try and keep my time blocked for sessions with my mentees, networking & skill building. On this day in particular I had a training session and then I did a brain dump of my work tasks before continuing a self study course.

1:30pm – Before grabbing a bite, I did a Move with Nicole 15 min Pilates class. Her classes are soo good!

3:15pm – Today I picked up my daughters early as we were going to my in-laws house. And it was straight to Karate for them.

6:00pm – Last Friday we celebrated Lorhi. Lorhi is the celebration to mark the passing of Winter Solstice. I love celebrating anything that follows the lunar phases. Time spend with family, playing games, building a fire, throwing peanuts into said fire, eating and drinking great food!

And that’s it! How do your Friday’s look? Is it the same every Friday or varied? These kind of days offer me the most work life integration – which is what I strive for everyday!

Blogmas | The biggest lesson I learned this year

Posted on December 16, 2022 by Bhanu Misra Marya

I was recently scrolling through TikTok and some someone post about what the biggest lesson that they learned this year. Without even watching the full post – I immediately thought about mine…(goes to show how mindless show intense my multi tasking is!)

I figured it would make a great blogmas post…

The biggest lesson I learned this year was maintaining consistency with my self growth practices.

Now as I’m saying that I realize it sounds very simplistic. But I realized not being consistent actually creates bad habits. Or rather, being consistent creates good habits. And for me those habits are helping me grow and develop.

So here’s the kicker: I find myself only being consistent with my self growth and development rituals (quality journaling, outdoors walks, forrest baths, deep meditation, creating content, making art, reading, learning) when I’m needing to change* something. And then, as soon as I achieve* that something I for some reason decide to de-prioritize those rituals.

Maybe that de-prioritization comes naturally because that thing I achieved takes up more of my time. But I’ve realized that I can’t let it. I need to be consistent with my rituals because they are the only thing that will support me in the long run.

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Blogmas | Do THIS before you create your reality with a #VisionBoard

Posted on December 14, 2022 by Bhanu Misra Marya

We are 18 days out from 2023. I hope between the get togethers, holiday meals and gift giving your are making time for YOU. As a mom of daughters, with a full fledge and progressive career with ambitions of growing my business – goal setting has always been my thing.

But with the new year I definitely try to be more intentional.

Below is the process I’ve developed over the years + sharing my vision board capturing visual cues of all the areas I’m setting goals in (wellness, learning, career promotion, financial abundance, family, friends and world travel).

Retrospective on the past year: I use the life audit wheel and do an audit of the areas of my life that went really well (10) and the areas that I felt I could have put more effort towards or that could have gone better (1 being the lowest on the scale)
Write in words what the life audit showed me: This is really about writing down what went well and what didnt. So now you have two representations of the past year.
Get clear on what you want to achieve: Now taking the written retrospective, write down all the things you want to achieve. Be as detailed as possible. And also make room to jot down the feeling you have when you think about these achievements. And most importantly, write down actionable steps to get where you want to be (full disclosure: this will take you more than one sitting)
Pinterest, pinterest, PINTEREST! You are gonna grab all images that show you achieving everything you clearly articulated in step 3.
Make you vision board: Now you are going to make a visual representation of what you wrote in 3. Before you make your vision board, make a gratitude list, meditate, light a candle, clense your crystals – just be in the most receiving space you can be in! Once you love what you’ve created (also: this could take a few tries) PRINT it out, save to all of your desktop wallpapers & make sure you look at it multipe times a day.

You’ll notice a pattern here, we think, write and visualize. Repeatedly. Why? Because the brain can’t tell the difference between something actually happening/how it feels when you achieve something vs when you just think about achieving it & feel the feelings. Once you brain believes you’ve achieved it, you’ll starting behaving in a way and taking actions in the direction of that achievement.

BONUS: Do future journalling – everyday of the new year, potentially as part of your morning journalling practice. This is where you write down everything of the day as it it’s already happened (ie: these will be the actionable steps you wrote down in 3 aboce). Again tricking your brain into thinking you’ve already achieved the accomplishment but on a daily basis.

Vision Board, Pinterest, Mood board, Future, Goals, New Years Resolution, Goal Setting, Happy, Abundant, successful, wealthy, prosperity, vitality, wellness

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Blogmas | Podcasts I’m listening to right now

Posted on December 9, 2022 by Bhanu Misra Marya

I don’t know what I’ll do if they ever make it a full subscription model for free learning mediums like podcasts and youtube! But grateful I get access to virtual mentors world wide through podcasts!

I am really into personal success stories, biographies & female empowerment when it comes to my taste in podcasts. Read below to learn more about the podcasts I’m into these days (in no particular order):

Diary of a CEO: is hosted by Steve Barlett (an investor from Dragon’s Den) who is able to get the most comprehensive and value add stories from his guests. I really love that given all of his experience he still breaks it down so anyone listening can gain the knowledge that he already knows to be true. My only qualm is that each episode is over an hour.

CEO School: is hosted by Suneera Madhani. A brown girl unicorn founder and CEO. She shares her own lived experienced lessons that are so relatable. She also talks about smart topics such as how to level up in business and in life. I really love wine-down Wednesdays, episodes are not over 25 min

*are we seeing a pattern here*

Goal Digger: is hosted by Jenna Kutcher (who’s amazing success story had me hooked from day 1: she was a SAHM, bought a DSLR and built a 7 figure biz). She talks about EVERYTHING from crypto, to side hustles, to daily finances to biohacking. I recently found her and so glad I did!

Podcast, podcast episodes, goals, productivity, entrepreneurship, business, corporate girlie

Affirmation Babe: hosted by Ashley Diana (what a beautiful name!). Her episodes are affirmations on important topics for most women. The episodes are less than 20 minutes and serve the dose of positivity and optimism you need to fill your mind with to change your story. One word of caution: some episodes contain explicit words so read the titles before playing on speaker!

L eadership Babes: is hosted by Atena Morelli & Laura Wizman. I’m new to this podcast but their topics are all about the journey to success: mindset, manifestation, and creating the consistency to build the life of your dreams. (if you are looking for a planner spread: check out my digital wellness and agenda pages here)

The Daily Motivation: Is hosted by Lewis Howes. You might know him as a lifestyle entrepreneur or best selling author – annnddd he was actually a footballer player. I really enjoy this podcast because each episode is less than 10 min and include the real impact & actionable steps of his longer episodes

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