Fireside chat with a group of working moms

Posted on May 20, 2019 by Bhanu Misra Marya

A few weeks ago, I had the opportunity to attend a fire side chat hosted by a panel of working moms.

I am in a phase of my life where I look for inspiration from other moms, namely other working moms. I love receiving advice on how to find a complementary lifestyle between career and home, but also other important facets of one’s life like hobbies, fitness and personal growth.

Being in a technology / software development industry, I mainly hear from women in IT. But this group of mom’s was different kind of panel: they were a group of working mom’s in health care.

Yep doctors…! The type of people who give up their lives for the wellness of others. Surprisingly, what they deal with as mom’s is the same as what every other mom deals with!

Thought I’d share some of the topics that were discussed:

Ask for help: Everyone’s need and type of help is different, but the important thing is to actually be okay with asking and accepting help. For some of us it can be full time paid help (like a nanny / daycare) or it could be having a baby sitter two times a month to help out for date night. One idea that I hadn’t thought of is befriending other parents. Invite your child’s friends over for playdates and work on those parent friendships – they could come in handy when you are in a pinch.
Sacrifice: Every day is a sacrifice when you are mom who works outside of the home. (Hell when you are a mom period!) You are either a great mom and not giving your career your everything or you are a killing it on the career front and neglecting your duties at home. One thing to remember is that your kids will be okay and better for it seeing you pursue something that challenges you and makes you feel happy. Ditch the guilt and quiet the voices.
Time away from your career: Taking a mat leave will effect your career or business – there is no doubt about that. Your career and business will struggle during mat leave and afterwards for a bit. That’s inevitable! Create a plan to figure out how you want to move up and keep your eyes on the prize.
Plan when to have your babies: There is no right time but having a solid handle on your finances will help.
What motivates you to keep going in your career: All the mom’s had really interesting reasons so I feel the need to share them all:
- “I felt a need to do something just for me”
- “I wanted to provide for my kids, give them the things I couldn’t have in my childhood”
- my passion became my purpose”

Goal Set 2019

Posted on January 7, 2019 by Bhanu Misra Marya

Well we are officially into our first week of 2019, but I’d be lying if I said I hadn’t put any thoughts into new years goals. This year I wanted to keep it somewhat open ended and rather give myself room to explore where I want to be able to grow in 2019. Below are some areas I am working on this year!

1) Make our house our Home

2) Get educated

3) Practice creative consistency

4) Improve my self care activities

5) Keep focus on my wellness journey

6) Quality time for the relationships that really matter in my life

And there you have it – and yes that is the easy part.

When I used to have a gym membership, I remember the first 3 weeks of January it was so packed I’d have to wait for a cardio machine! But by February 1st, we were back to the regular gym crowd and having several treadmills always available to choose from.

It’s simple to write down the goals you want to work towards but actually reaching the goals is the hard part. From my own experience, I know that if you really want to achieve something, you have to “be ready” to (aka your mind has to “be ready”). And by that I mean, put in the time and effort, do the hard things and be flexible on the path.

So here are some tips to help you strive for progress while working towards your new year goals:

1️⃣ Use a Habit Tracker: a great way to mark that tiny step you took towards your goal is by tracking it. Checking a checkbox can be very satisfying and a great motivator for continued progress.
2️⃣ Set a Challenge for 30 Days: It could be that you want do 100 squats a day, cut out refined sugar or drink 8 glasses of water – try doing it for 30 days. Better yet start your 30 day challenge in February or March. It greatly reduces the stress around resolutions failing at the beginning of the year and also lets you try out something without a major commitment.
3️⃣ Reward yourself: I think this is the most important one. Try setting mini milestones and associated rewards when you reach them. It might be getting your nails done or buying new running new gear. Celebrating even the tiniest of wins is great for productivity and performance. Your brain will start to link pleasure with reaching a goal and continue to strive for that in the future.

Faux Winter

Posted on January 8, 2012 by thrulesyeux

What I’m Wearing: Denim shirt & Touq: Gifted | Shoes: Unknown | Leggings & Leg Warmers: H&M | Tote: Joe Fresh | Scarf: McQueen

The weather looked amazing from the window but it was very chilly…I’m surprised the Hubz was even able to capture these. This weekend was one of those weekends where we really enjoyed life. Eating great food, Hanging out with friends, Partying till 3am, Working out, Spending time with the Familia, Shopping, Dancing, Sleeping in till 11am. This work week is going to be cray…can’t wait till next weekend.

80s Child

Posted on November 1, 2011 by thrulesyeux

RND(n)

Posted on October 31, 2011 by thrulesyeux

The last few days have been a bit of a blur. We’ve been doing a lot of family stuff so haven’t had much time to ourselves. In the little downtime I’ve had I’ve been trying to update my iPod with some new music and looking for clothing/accessories websites that ship to Canada. (Haven’t had any luck yet so I think I just might make a trip to Holt Renfrew for some items I’ve had my eye on.)
I wore this for a quick trip to the store to see if I could get a new cover for my phone. No luck again (hopefully I’ll head to Pacific mall next weekend)

Art Deco

Posted on October 25, 2011 by thrulesyeux

I made the BEST chicken curry today! It was so good I surprised myself! (Which I rarely do with my cooking).

The Hubz and I are working on an Art Deco wall project for above our sofa in the living room. It’s embarrassing but our walls have been bare for the entire time we’ve been in our place. I’m glad I finally got some inspiration. I wore this outift for our trip to Ikea to pick up some supplies.