How to make better to do lists!

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To do lists are the micro levels of my big dreams.  Big dreams are astronomical, may take months or years to achieve them, require persistence and consistency.  Consistency is where our daily to do lists come in.

I do want to preface this post by saying the following:

  • we shouldn’t be slaves to our to do lists
  • to do lists don’t own us
  • to do lists are meant to serve us 

So if your daily to do list, post it or weekly planner spread is making you feel bad about yourself – throw it out, take a beat and start over again when you are ready!

We shouldn’t feel productivity debt (feeling like you always need to be doing something and rest is not deserved unless your to do list is completed) from not completing everything on our to do list & there is nothing you NEED to do to earn your existence.

But when you are ready to schedule the day you want to make it amazing – read on!

Side note: I’m writing this as I was feeling overwhelm trying to use notion.  Notion is meant to be a tool to keep your life organized but there was too much scope creep in their product – for me at least.  The idea that it might also need to look aesthetic, link to a Spotify playlist and my Pinterest mood board was a little too much.  So I realized I need to step back and figured others might need to too.

So how do we make our to do lists work for us?

  1. Figure out your big dreams, goals, priorities and projects.   But also think about the habits you want to build and routines you want to have.
  2. Pick a medium that works for you.  Could be paper or digital, simple or complex.  You’ll also want to choose a template: Is it just 1 sticky note for the day, or multiple colour coded ones, is it a weekly spread planner or an hour-by-hour list of tasks.  This can obviously change but it’s a great idea to try something out.
  3. Fill your list with your daily living + tasks that will help you got to your big goals.  Example are meetings, but also your workouts (goal: to focus on fitness).  It could be having lunch with someone and blocking 2 hours in the morning for writing (goal: to write a book).  
  4. Pick something to fail at.  Not everything has to be checked off and not everything has to be done well.  So knowing what can be moved to another day vs a non-negotiable will help you stay intentional and not feel like you aren’t moving forward.

Remember – it’s all about getting to outcomes (not getting things done).  Your to do list should be on your side helping you build intentional habits and keep you 1 step closer to your goals!

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Fireside chat with a group of working moms

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A few weeks ago, I had the opportunity to attend a fire side chat hosted by a panel of working moms.

I am in a phase of my life where I look for inspiration from other moms, namely other working moms.  I love receiving advice on how to find a complementary lifestyle between career and home, but also other important facets of one’s life like hobbies, fitness and personal growth.

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Being in a technology / software development industry, I mainly hear from women in IT.  But this group of mom’s was different kind of panel: they were a group of working mom’s in health care.

Yep doctors…!   The type of people who give up their lives for the wellness of others.  Surprisingly, what they deal with as mom’s is the same as what every other mom deals with!

Thought I’d share some of the topics that were discussed:

  1. Ask for help: Everyone’s need and type of help is different, but the important thing is to actually be okay with asking and accepting help. For some of us it can be full time paid help (like a nanny / daycare) or it could be having a baby sitter two times a month to help out for date night.  One idea that I hadn’t thought of is befriending other parents.  Invite your child’s friends over for playdates and work on those parent friendships – they could come in handy when you are in a pinch. 
  2. Sacrifice:  Every day is a sacrifice when you are mom who works outside of the home. (Hell when you are a mom period!) You are either a great mom and not giving your career your everything or you are a killing it on the career front and neglecting your duties at home.  One thing to remember is that your kids will be okay and better for it seeing you pursue something that challenges you and makes you feel happy.  Ditch the guilt and quiet the voices.
  3. Time away from your career:  Taking a mat leave will effect your career or business – there is no doubt about that.  Your career and business will struggle during mat leave and afterwards for a bit. That’s inevitable!  Create a plan to figure out how you want to move up and keep your eyes on the prize.
  4. Plan when to have your babies:   There is no right time but having a solid handle on your finances will help.
  5. What motivates you to keep going in your career:  All the mom’s had really interesting reasons so I feel the need to share them all:
    • “I felt a need to do something just for me”
    • “I wanted to provide for my kids, give them the things I couldn’t have in my childhood”
    • my passion became my purpose”

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