Sensory Calming Techniques

I recently came across this easy calming technique using only your 5 senses!

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Sensory activities have proven benefits for children such as increased self esteem and improved emotional well being.  So why wouldn’t this also work for adults (with a few tweaks of course!)

For me I usually do one activity that combines all at least 3 of the 5 senses (like going for an outdoor run or setting up and taking pretty photos).  But the perspective of doing only 1 thing really speaks to the mindfulness and being present when doing a single calming activity.

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So the next time you are looking for some calming activities or need to reduce anxiety after a stressful event consider these 5 techniques to awaken your senses and relax…

Smell: Light a scented candle

Sound: listen to songs that make you nostalgic

Taste: drink a mint or lavender tea

Touch: Hold hands or cuddle a pet

Sight: Look up at the sky

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My Ideal Day

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I truly feel alignment is the spice of life.  Aligning to my goals, hobbies, dreams, passions, career and community – as much as I can EVERYDAY.   Of course there are days where what I want do is “align” to comfort (aka binge watch a series on Netflix!!)  But by choosing alignment, I make a conscious decisions when it comes to to re-aligning or readjusting my day to handle priorities or new needs.

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I recently did the daily habit score cards as outlined in Atomic Habits.  What you need to do is write down every thing you do most days.  Things like brush your teeth, drop your kids at school, read on the train, scroll IG while making a coffee, take a walk over lunch,  meditate before bed are some of the habits that I would need to record.  Even the habits you don’t think are important like snooze the alarm or set the alarm for the next day are recorded in this list of habits.  Then I used a +, – or = to denote positive/beneficial habits, negative habits and neutral habits.

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What this exercise did was help me visually see and recognize habits that weren’t helping me get to where I see myself in the future or on path to attain certain goals.  It’s a helpful way to honestly look at and become more aware of your behaviour.

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What it got me thinking about was, what my ideal day would consist of  (ie: turn my habits into goals).  It made me aware of what activities make me feel energized, bring me joy and what things I want to do to improve my everyday.  What I saw was those activities were grouped into the following categories:

  • Growth (Professional, Personal and Spiritual)
  • Exercise/Eating healthy foods
  • Quality Family Time
  • Being prepared
  • Doing Work that I enjoy and is a priority for me
  • Having fun
  • Getting Enough Rest

So here is a snapshot of what I see as my ideal day:

Wake up (without an alarm!), meditate and journal (optimal journalling practice for me would be either a brain dump/artists way writing, combined with gratitude, goal setting and a to do list).   Drink a bottle of water and then get dressed in my workout clothes and spend 15 minutes reading before the rest of the house wakes up.   If it’s a Wednesday or a Weekend, I’d probably wear a facemark. When the kids wake up, I’d help them get ready for the day and we all head downstairs. The kids would have breakfast and after dropping them off at school I’d do my outdoor workout (tempo run through a forest, HIIT or heavy weight training).  Getting back home, I’d drink water and have a healthy breakfast that I prepped the night before.  I’d make tea and refill my water bottle and get to work where I contribute to and add value to peoples life with both a tech and human centric approach.  I would schedule meetings for the afternoons because my most productive time is between 9am-2:30pm, I’d want to use that time to work, write, photograph, create, ideate, research, work on projects, strategize or consult.  I would break for lunch (to eat something I prepped the night before with lots of veggies/fibre, fish or eggs and a complex carb with more water) and definitely take a leisurely stroll to energize and also digest the meal.  I’d spend the remainder of my afternoon drinking more water and either in meetings, training or creating.  Before picking up the kids, I would love to have a tea break or coffee chat with a colleague or business partner.  After, picking the kids up from school, we’d have an afternoon snack and do homework or get to after school extra curricular activities. Dinner would be prepped or at least planned and we’d eat as a family. Before bed we’d hang out (go for a walk, bike ride or play a game or watch the WNBA game).  After the kids are in bed, I’d prep for the next day before taking some me time to either study, stretch/foam roll, shower, netflix or blog. I’d end the date with a peppermint tea with a few pieces of dark chocolate or home-made cookies. Definitely would want to be in bed by 10:30 after brushing/flossing my teeth and taking time to spiritually self reflect.

Wow just writing that out was so relaxing.  And of course things may come up where I’d have to adjust my attention to handle a priority but the hope is keeping my day as closely aligned to my main goal categories.  Every small step would create a ripple effect towards my goals.

38 thoughts…

Hey!! Today is my 38th birthday. Grateful for another trip around the sun and I felt compelled to write a list of 38 thoughts/words of wisdom that have inspired me…

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1. Be creative everyday

2. Communicate with transparency in interpersonal relationships

3. Get out of your comfort zone

4. Use post it notes to organize, prioritize and remind yourself

5. Learn something new everyday

6. Surround yourself with successful people

7. Listen to more music

8. Understand your biases so you can move past them

9. Use your voice (both verbally and written) to share your ideas, thoughts and opinions (the world needs it)

10. Don’t follow the trends or masses

11. You don’t have to like, watch or do everything online, that your friends post/do or because everyone else is doing it

12. Sit in silence

13. Meditate and journal daily and in that order

14. Run (longer but slower), stretch and foam roll

15. Be better than you were yesterday

16. Being disciplined with yourself is self love

17. Drink more water

18. Nail polish isn’t something I need to wear everyday

19. Hug and say I love you to the kids/hubby multiple times a day

20. Your best & highest self is who you should connect to everyday

21. Reach out of your network to make new connections

22. Being an introvert is amazing

23. Read more / scroll less

24. Brain dumps and list making is very therapeutic

25. There are 3 mindsets you can use in any situation: growth, opportunity & detachment

26. Try your beat to envision your best self/life everyday (especially on the hard days)

27. Forest walks for the win

28. Before you go to bed: brush/floss your teeth, wash your face, wear an eye cream and brush your hair with your head upside down

29. If you really want something, talk openly about it to people who can support you in getting there

30. Listen, always listen

31.  Know you are loved + love yourself

32. Appreciate where you are (knowing you wanted this!)

33.  Dress up (and take a picture of your OOTD whenever you can!)

34.  Slow down, rest, pIgor but then keep going

35. Mornings are my magic (morning pages, morning walks and especially morning distance runs)

36. Dance, for no reason

37. If you want something done right, best to do it yourself

38.  Be grateful, always!

15 Mid-Week Mood Boosters

Sharing a mid week list of mood boosters + some of my creative photography!  I truly loved capturing the image of the flowers and the lines of shadowed light.  I need to get better at prioritizing capturing creative photography everyday!  Scroll down to see the image as well as a list of mood boosters.  I hope that one or two works for you!

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  1. Read 5 pages or a chapter of a book
  2. Put on a cute outfit and take some mirror selfies
  3. Make a list or a do a brain dump
  4. Write a letter to your future self about how proud you are of your accomplishments
  5. Tidy up some space in your home
  6. Setting up personal BHAGs and breaking them down into executable steps/milestones
  7. Hug everyone in your family
  8. Take a warm shower or a bath if you have enough time
  9. Go for a walk or run (make sure a portion of it includes being in a forest)
  10. Meditate
  11. Use the pomodoro effect to focus on completing a piece of work
  12. Make a vision board
  13. Write down what you are grateful for
  14. Drink an entire bottle of water
  15. Do something creative

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Why I run (a letter to myself)

I’ve been running since high-school.  Well technically I started running cross country (3km?) when I was in middle school.  So really, I’ve been running since i was 10 or 11 years old.

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My oldest memory of running was running with the middle school cross country team during early morning practice through a forest/ravine behind our school.   I can’t believe I had that level of discipline!  Although, being disciplined doesn’t really feel like work when you are doing something you really love.

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So it’s safe to say I’ve always been running.  And I want to continue running. So I am writing this letter to myself as a reminder to keep running.     Whether the way I run changes (distance, time, speed) – I want to remind myself what running means to me.

1) Running is my moving meditation
2) Running brings me greater awareness to my capabilities
3) Running allows me to disconnect
4) Running makes me feel like I am flying
5) Running makes me grateful
6) Running allows me to connect with my natural environment
7) Running brings me immediate relief from overbearing emotions
8) After a run, I can think more clearly and make better decisions
9) Running is my favourite cardio
10) Running makes me feel fit
11) Running helps me organize my mind
12) Running makes me creative
13) Running has taught me over and over again, there is always room for growth
14) Running is as much about my physical capability as it is about my mental resilience
15) Run every day, because I only regret the runs I missed

16) Running always starts with walking first

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Practicing Self Care during Physical Distancing

It’s been over 10 weeks since we started physically distancing.

Information is changing constantly and of course I am hopeful and I am also realistic. But I think I am extra sensitive these days.

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Initially, it felt great having “extra time” but then life at home got busier with full time everything all the time!

Having to facilitate remote schooling, preparing wholesome learning activities, tutoring, all day child minding along with being a housekeeper, cook, partner.  Mix in part time school and WFH – it literally left no time for anything else.

And then something clicked and I realized that this wasn’t going to be a sprint – but a marathon. I also realized I needed to re-adjust the action plan for the long haul.

The feeling of being extra sensitive comes and goes in waves – I’m trying to figure out what and when I’m triggered and remove those triggers from my immediate attention (I am sharing this in case others are feeling the same but also to share that this activity is part of the readjustment for the long haul).

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So now I am taking it one day at a time, learning to relentlessly triage, give myself grace, slow down all while enjoying this special-unusual-new normal as much as I can.

I also remind myself of this:

  • happiness isn’t a destination
  • being positive is knowing things will get better even if they aren’t great right now

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Apart from these thoughts, there is always a loud voice telling me to be creative.  When I am not writing/taking pictures regularly I just feel off. So with whatever time I can manage, I’ll try to make space for creativity.

With all that said, I hope you are doing well and in case you need a recharge as we enter week 11 of physical distancing I’ve included some self care ideas to keep you going for the long haul.

  1. Create a (new) routine. Realizing I didn’t have my commute, my morning step count/city walk, my time to scroll IG, read a book or catch up/make lists/plan. Although I don’t have a routine that makes me grounded, I had to be okay changing things up.  Steps around the house or a quick walk with the girls around the street, read in bed while the house is closet/before getting up to start the day.  Part of the routine also includes remote learning for the kids as well as teaching them about when we have work tasks/meetings.  It’s a tricky balance but we are getting there.
  2. Get dressed in something cute every morning.  Ok I am definitely not wearing dress pants, skirts or blazers.  But a fresh pair of leggings and a cute sweater can make all the difference.
  3. Exercise and find ways to be active.  Workouts have changed.  Running outdoors doesn’t feel the same.  I have to really fight for my 10k steps.  But I do it anyways.  I take the stairs more than I have to.  I chase the kids.  I try not to stand still and walk during meetings.
  4. Talk to someone.  I think since 2020 started, I realized that I became an introvert in adulthood.  Or maybe I just crave my own space, quiet and stillness.  But then I found that I needed to talk to people who filled my cup. I needed to surround myself with positivity and clarity.  Thankfully I have a few people I can talk to.
  5. Drink tons of water.  Water/Sparkling/Herbal tea + multiple trips to the bathroom :)
  6. Conscious Eating.  We’ve started meal planning again or atleast writing a list of meals for the week so we can prep in advance or not have to think of options when it’s time to eat.  Make grocery lists.  And decide on when we want to indulge (because that happens!)

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