Think Again by Adam Grant (my favourite ideas from the book)

I recently read Think Again by Adam Grant, and I annotated a lot. Here are the annotations. Hopefully they spark some interest in you to think again (or at least read the book!)

  • When people reflect on what it takes to be mentally fit, the first idea that comes to mind is usually intelligence. The smarter you are, the more complex problems you can solve – the faster you can solve them….yet in a turbulent world, there’s another set of cognitive skills that might matter more: the ability to rethink & unlearn
  • When it comes to our own knowledge and opinions, we often favour feeling right over being rights
  • When we think and talk, we often slip into the mindsets of three different professions: preachers, prosecutors and politicians…We go into preacher mode when our sacred beliefs are in jeopardy: we deliver sermons to protect and promote our ideas. We enter prosecutor when we recognized flaws in other peoples’s reasoning: we marshal arguments to prove them wrong and win our case. We shift into politician mode when we’re seeking to win over an audience: we campaign and lobby for approval of our constituents.
  • In psychology there are at least 2 biases that drive [our thinking]: Confirmation bias – see what we expect to see [and] the other is desirability bias: seeing what we want to see.
  • What set apart great presidents was their intellectual curiosity and openness.
  • Research shows that when people are resistant to change, it helps to reinforce what will stay the same. Visions for change are more compelling when they include visions of continuity. Although our strategy might evolve, our identity will endure.
  • In theory, confidence and competence go hand in hand. In practice, they often diverge.
  • The Dunning-Kruger effect – when we lack competence that we are most likely brimming with over-confidence
  • Advancing from notice to amateur can break the rethinking cycle. As we gain experience, we lose some of our humility.
  • Confidence Sweet Spot = Confident Humility
  • Attachment. That’s what keeps us from recognizing when our opinions are off the mark and rethinking them. To unlock the joy of being wrong, we need to detach.
  • If you want to be a better forecaster today, you need to let go of your commitments of the opinions you held yesterday.
  • Productive disagreement is a lifeskill none of us fully develop. Research shows that how often parents argue has no bearing on their children’s academic, social or emotional development.
  • In good fights are the tension is intellectual not emotional
  • Skilled negotiators: find common ground > ask questions > provide a # of reasons > defend attacks
  • After establishing the drawbacks of her case, she emphasized a few reasons to hire her anyway: But what I do have are skills that can't be taught. I take ownership of projects far beyond my pay grade and what is defined in my scope of responsibilities. I don't wait for people to tell me what do and seek for myself what needs to be done. I invest myself deeply in my projects and it shows in everything I do, from my projects at work to the projects I do in my own time. I'm entrepreneurial. I get things done. I love breaking new ground and starting with a blank slate.
  • As a general rule: its those with greater power that need to do more of the rethinking.
  • When we try to convince people to think again, our first instinct is usually to start talking. Yet the most effective way to help others open their minds is often to listen.
  • Inverse Charisma (the magnetic qualities of a great listener): a sense of being listened to with such intensity that you had to be your most honest, sharpest and best self.
  • As consumers of information, we have a role to play. When reading, listening or watching, we can learn to recognize complexity as a signal of credibility. We can favour content and sources that present many sides of an issue, rather than just one or two. When we come across simplifying headlines, we can fight out tendency to accept binaries by asking what additional perspectives are missing between these extremes.
  • In productive conversations, people treat feelings as a rough draft. Like art, emotions are works in progress. As we gain perspective, we revise what we feel.
  • We need to encourage students to question themselves and one another.
  • Lectures are entertaining and informative, the question is whether they are the ideal method of teaching. […] they actually gained more knowledge and skill from active learning sessions (sending students off to find answers instead of the teacher showing the students how to arrive at the answer). It required deeper mental effort, which made it less fun but led to deeper understanding.
  • Perfectionists are more likely than their peers to ace school, they don’t perform any better than their colleagues at work.
  • Respond to confusion with curiosity and interest aka “give time to your confusion”
  • Encourage children to do multiple drafts of the same drawing.
  • Psychological safety is the foundation of a learning culture
  • Best practices in corporate imply that we’ve stopped learning, […] instead we should looking for “better practices”
  • When psychological safety exists without accountability, people operate within their comfort zone.
  • Change the ownership of psychological safety. (ex: if she says that it’s not safe to launch, the team should prove that it is safe to launch)
  • Sometimes the best type of grit, is gritting your teeth and turning around.
  • It’s easy to be a scientist: it’s simply the act of experimenting

Quick ways to shift your energetic state

✨ interrupt anxiety with deep breaths

✨ interrupt worry with thoughts of gratitude

✨ interrupt sadness with seeking the humour

✨ interrupt overwhelm with movement of the body

✨ interrupt fear with courageous action

✨ interrupt boredom with spontaneous play

7 ways to show up for yourself

As we round off the year, I like to share tid bits of wisdom that I’ve gained or read.  And I think it’s really important that we show up for yourselves.  Sometimes we have to be our own hype person, our own hand to high hive or shoulder to cry on.  The list below are some of my tried and true methods to showing up for yourself.

*all pictures are my own* do not use without explicit and written consent.

  1. Commit to routines that are good for your well being – be disciplined to do them enough even when you don’t want to.
  2. Practice self awareness – listening to your needs and course correcting when you aren’t aligning to your ultimate goals
  3. Give yourself grace – we don’t need to be perfect, it’s okay to fumble, take the rest you need, what matters is getting quickly getting back to your routines.
  4. Take care of your daily human needs: stay hydrated, eat healthy, get enough sleep, get sunshine and practice moderate activity
  5. Be curious – take every opportunity to learn and stretch yourself
  6. Make yourself a priority – show up for yourself, take care of yourself and be proud of your accomplishments
  7. Always have a grateful heart – it gives you perspective

4 routines to help reach your goals

I know its this time of year when everyone is gearing up for 2024.  Goals/resolutions, vision boards, planning planning planning.  Here’s your reminder that along with these activities you should take every opportunity be mindful about your journey…

Practice Gratitude: Having genuine gratitude for what you have now!

Visualize: Imagine your life as if if you have achieved your goals.  What you want, where you want to be, down to ever. last. detail.

Adjust your thoughts: Think about what you want everyday and act like you already have it.  This trains your mind to see more opportunities to get you closer to what you want.

Transform: everyday, every minute you need to SHOW up as the person who has what you want and has achieved the goal you are going to achieve.  This will be the most challenging part, but you have to push through and do it.

Book Review: The Creation Frequency by Mike Murphy

Earlier this year, I set a reading goal to read 12 books (at least) in 2023. I’m happy to report I’m right on track!

I recently read The Creation Frequency by Mike Murphy and it was such a great reminder about how we understand and interact with our surroundings (read: the Universe).

My favourite part was how he explained the power of manifestation as it relates to quantum science AND ancient wisdom.

Shout out to Vaughan Public Library for having such a great book in their catalogue! I’ll have to check it out again and update this post because I really want that concise commentary to live on this blog.

I give this book 5/5 ⭐️. If you are looking for a refresher or even an introduction on the topic – this is a great quick read with actionable steps.

Please share any book recommendations in the comments. Or check out the other books I’ve read in 2023 here.

Making art and sharing lessons

I’ve been on an art kick lately.  What does that mean? I’m making art daily.  Whether it’s painting, canvas embroidery, digital art on the iPad, ink pen mindful drawing and of course photography! So today I’m sharing my art (++ the time lapse process of making said art) and some quotes that have profound life lessons in them!

It’s always hard, until it’s easy

Create more than you consume

When you figure out how to love yourself, everything changes

The world just reflects your own feelings back at you, reality is neutral

What ever you think, you believe and will shape your reality

The tools for learning are abundant, the desire to learn is scarce

Need to get started, quit talking and start doing

https://youtu.be/vKVN6PXzcuU