#MothersDay2017

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Honestly I started the post almost 4 days ago and never got around to finishing it.  Between being there with my kids, cooking, laundry, getting back into fitness/fitbit, running errands, trying my very hardest to spend time with my hubby (while trying my hardest not to pass out on the couch at 8:30) my 5am scheduled posts have taken a back seat.  I let one slide (ok Monday’s post also didn’t almost happen on time) but definitely going to put in the work to get Friday’s post in on time.   Why the pressure on myself?  Well first off its not pressuring myself, writing, taking beautiful photos, editing, thinking, setting deadlines, dressing up for an OOTD – makes me feel good about myself.   Plus I LOVE the feeling of accomplishment and staying motivated is a huge goal for me over the next year.  Okay now that THATS out of the way…. :)

Mother’s Day 2017 was ahhh-mazzzing!  I got the sweetest potted seedling from Miss S (c/o her preschool class) and a gorgeous pendent necklace (similar to what I posted here). Plus I got treated to alone time in the bathroom (I know such a luxury), Breakfast in bed with the cutest homemade gift from the Mister and Miss S (and of course Miss El).

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I listened to the most refreshing podcast episode this morning about parenting your little ones at typical summer events (such as weddings and grad ceremonies – both of which we will be attending in the coming months).  I would love if my kids could take every nap in the own bed/crib and don’t have to nag them to eat their meal – but having friends/family and the related events doesn’t always lend itself to the perfect parenting situations :)  Plus the mister and I are on the go ourselves (between corporate careers, working out, schooling, night outs etc) so I am glad that I stumbled upon the episode to remind me to keep perspective and plan!

The 3 important things to remember:

  1. know you child’s tolerance level (a kid will only act in a way she is programmed for their age and it’s on me as a parent to adjust to that thinking)
  2. come prepared with loose parts that allow for quiet yet active place (lol sounds scary but each parent knows their child’s safety level so some items that were suggested are feathers, scarves etc)
  3. don’t apologize for your kids behaviour (somewhat related to 1 above)

Hope everyone had a wonderful Mother’s Day weekend!

Mixing Patterns & Mom Confidence #StyleTheBump #OOTD

I realized I have a few long lost #OOTDs from the last nine months so I figured I’d share them.

I didn’t buy much clothes this time around and with the cold weather I almost only lived in maternity pants or leggings.

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There is something that has been on my mind: I think there are some women who are born with the “mom gene”.  And then there are women (like me – ok I hope like me) where motherhood takes a little more time.

Even though I already have one kid (so I should know what’s coming) there are still some things I don’t remember, that were unexpected or things that were down right difficult!

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Leggings | Booties (old) | Purse (similar) | Shirt (similar) | Vest | Necklace

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Almost 7 months pregnant in this picture

I, like most people, could easily sing a sad song about it (and sometimes that is what I do) but I believe that it would be a better use of my time and energy to think about how I can turn myself around.  The days are long but the years are short as they say.  So I thought I would talk about what I do to make me more confident as a person and as a mom.

1. Fake it till you make it: My number one go-to when I am confused and lost about what I am suppose to doing for a particular mom task, for a certain day or life general LOL. I am a believer in just putting your head down and getting through what you are dealing with.  But, if you need to take a minute to let the stress set in, than take that minute… but then move on.  Put that energy, light and love into doing/attempting to do what needs to get done….if the time is there and it’s going to pass you anyway – it’s best to keep doing.

TLY_OOTDStripesNavyGreenVest32. Take time for yourself: This is such an important idea.  #SelfCare for mom’s especially is a must and priority every damn day.  Whether that means taking a shower, working on your craft, going for a walk, getting your nails done etc.  Take time EVERYDAY for yourself.  I myself like to make sure my nails are on point, I do something creative (photograph or write) and if I am feeling really ambitious check some things of my personal to do list!

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3. Spend time with your kids:  Being a mom is no joke.  There are diaper changes, daycare germs, dinner time, reading the same books 100 times, discipline and a million routines. All of this can really make you feel exhausted (especially on a good day).  But outside of this, being a confident mom can take more shape when you spend quality time with your littles.  It builds a strong bond and also allows you to learn them inside out (and not within regular mom duties). I like to be completely present when we are having dinner, reading books before bed or playing with my kiddo when she gets home from pre-school (essentially that means she has my complete attention!)

3. Let go of the #momguilt:  I am GUILTY of this (pun intended).  There was some things  I didn’t take into consideration when baby # 2 would arrive.  Like conflicting nighttime routines and nursing schedules.  This literally made me feel like $h!t because I couldn’t be there for my big little when my little little needed me. That – along with some other unexpected stuff…  and in sets the mom guilt. Mom guilt is all consuming so I had to let go of that real fast – for myself and for my kids.

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4. Forget the audience:  This time around we got to spend more time as a family and a new family of four.  Which turns out to be super important, especially as you need time to figure out your new normal.  Having people around will only delay your family bonding.  So set boundaries and be selfish with your time.  Thankfully we were more aware of our obligations and expectations (being South Asian and all) and planned accordingly.

5.  Make your own decisions: Advice comes fast and furious and doesn’t stop just because your kid is applying to university programs.  If you are wishy washy about decisions people will force their opinions on you.  Find a “statement” (read: rebuttal) that works for you and use it.  Even if your decision doesn’t work out initially you can try something else without having to let anyone know – you are doing what works best for you and your family.

Last thing I wanted to say (and maybe more so as advice to myself) is simply to OWN IT.   We all make decisions and sometimes the journey is tougher than we expected.  The best thing we can do is stand up and keep going.  Because there is always someone watching :)

Life Lately #ForMemoriesSake

I thought I’d do a life lately post for memories sake.  Although we take a lot of photos on our phones I have to really work on taking photos with my big camera.  Second to that I really have to work on printing those photos.  I am so guilty of taking photos and hoarding them on a single storage device.  Hence why I’ve started sharing more on this blog.  At least I’ll have these posts for memories sake.

Adding another kiddo to the fambam is a no joke. (LOL – read nervous laughter!!)

Bringing one child into the lives of two adults is nothing compared to having a second.  With your first, your whole world revolves around the one child and then you all of sudden you have to share/split your energy, time, tasks, responsibilities between two – it’s a real game changer.

Although I’ve been told after you have two you could have ten no problem… LOL!

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Miss S is really into Miss E.  She’s all about the kisses, finger hugs, feeding with bottles, helping to get things, telling me that Miss E is biting me lol etc.  Although as now a mom of two, I have felt and seen a sting from my older little towards me and the Hubz.  We are doing our best to spend as much time with her and even giving her special “day-dates” with either both or one of us so I am hoping that this is a phase and it will pass soon.

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I have been balancing quite a bit – but I actually feel good about it.  Along with the responsibilities of a growing family, I am trying to be more active on my social media channels, making plans for growth here and also finishing up a course I am enrolled in.  So yes a babe on the hip and studying is a real thing for me right now.

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That said, I am trying to rest as much as possible and listen to my body as well.  I did make it out for a lunch run with the Hubz the other day.  It felt good to get out wear something cute and freeze our butts off in this prolonged Canadian winter :P

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And of course I am spending tons of time cuddling a newborn.  It definitely feels different this time around.  Maybe because I have more knowledgable or maybe because I don’t have enough time to think about things because we are literally in survival mode some nights :)

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As with the last time, I am nursing and pumping.  It provides me the closeness as well as the freedom that I need as a woman and a momma :)

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Highlighter | Night Cream | Eye Cream | Sling | Blouse (similar)

Spring is here and I am completely in the mood to refresh my routine and start wearing some lighter colours.  Also planning on #babywearing for some neighbourhood walks :)

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In April I plan to setting up 3 daily to-dos to keep myself inspired and motivated as my mat leave really begins.  Things like:

  • getting out for a sling walk with Miss E
  • going to the library program
  • getting to a mommies group
  • also adding more to the blog and etsy (more photography, more inspiration and maybe some vlogging/videography)
  • Scheduling Posts (blog and social channels)
  • Change my nail polish, straighten my hair or do a facemark #SelfCare!!

Some other things I was thinking about is:

  • Writing out the birth story (if anything for memories sake)
  • Printing some photos
  • Reading more books!
  • Working on some new projects and mentorships
  • Working out again (really looking forward to this)
  • Painting, Planting and Knitting :)
  • Figure out my #The100DayProject project #SoExcited

Baby Box Co Review @TheBabyBoxCo #babyboxuniversity

I first heard about the Baby Box Company from another blogger who had recently received hers.  After having received tons of freebies* the first time around I was excited to see that something new had arrived for mammas :)

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The Baby Box Co is a company that provides boxes for babies to sleep in as well as some great coupons, samples/full size products to try.   The most famous one is the Finland Baby Box – well known the world over.  That said it’s great that we get this box for free here in Canada :)

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Some of the samples included in the box are:

  • Newborn Diapers (pack of 20)
  • Cetaphil wash, lotion and oil
  • Sesame Street Bubble bath
  • Lanisoh nursing covers and milk storage bag
  • A Onesie
  • …a few coupons for other products + some helpful information.

You can sign up here.  All you need to do is watch their #babyboxuniversity teaching video and answer a few questions about the topics covered and you’ll receive a certificate that you will use at pick up.  Yes that is the only downside – you have to pick up the box yourself.  Although I understand why, the price to ship the box and bag of goodies wouldn’t exactly lend itself to keeping the service free.

Here is a quick video I created to provide some more details of what’s in the box!

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I mention freebies* above because there is a list of things you can sign up for and receive for free.  They can come in pretty handy.  The list is below!

Thoughts on a “Mom’s To Do” list

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Is it just me or do people/moms/females ALWAYS have running to do lists.  On our phones, in our planners, on our computer, in our heads.  I probably have anywhere from 2-10 “to do”, “to buy”, “to finish” lists at any given time.  It’s both comforting (as it makes me feel like I have it all together) and frustrating (why do my lists of things to do keep get longer LOL).  But the positive for me outweighs the negative and having to do lists are also calming and keep me organized.

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Here is an excerpt from my said #MomToDoList

  • Clean oven
  • Shave legs #RealLIfeTho
  • Face mask/Eye mask/Threading/Exfoliate
  • Finish meal prep (snacks/dinner options)
  • Finish this week’s lecture
  • Complete this week’s homework
  • Clean make up brushes
  • Finish decorating little room
  • Paint my toenails a pretty colour
  • Design the aids
  • Finish the book I am reading so I can go back to reading the autobiography
  • Plan a trip to Target (lol)
  • Dust/Mop mainfloor
  • Pick up contacts
  • Pick up herb planters, seedlings and soil

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Bath Time #MotherhoodHack

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I have been known to keep Miss S in there till she’s prune-naay.  It’s a great way to keep the kiddo occupied – especially on the evenings when I am on my own for night duty.

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Live Clean smells delicious!  And her skin is incredibly soft (although I am sure I over moisturize her :P)

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Don’t get me wrong, there are days where she goes to the park three evenings in a row, follows bugs aka “spida-mans” for 40 minutes, probably eats sand or a leaf (thinking it’s spinach – even though she doesn’t eat spinach), slathered in  sun block with no bath in site – until Sunday evening before the week begins again #LazyMomAlert.

So I feel no shame in letting her have 30 minute baths when I need it to r.e.l.a.x :)

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Any other moms out there take full advantage of a bubble bath?