Wow here we are – 3 month old baby Ellie belly!
She has been smiling for a while now and we’ve heard her giggle. She is now more into PDA in that she makes physical contact with me, the mister or her big sis.
She is keeping her hands open more now and we love watching her kick and move her arms #DoYouEvenLift.
If you been following the last 10 days, you might have noticed that I’ve blogged everyday from Monday to Friday and, as a goal and personal challenge, will continue to do so for the rest of June 2017. Check out the posts here.
You also might notice that I didn’t actually get this post published on time. I was mentally exhausted on Friday and couldn’t bring myself to type. But it’s here now :)
Honestly I started the post almost 4 days ago and never got around to finishing it. Between being there with my kids, cooking, laundry, getting back into fitness/fitbit, running errands, trying my very hardest to spend time with my hubby (while trying my hardest not to pass out on the couch at 8:30) my 5am scheduled posts have taken a back seat. I let one slide (ok Monday’s post also didn’t almost happen on time) but definitely going to put in the work to get Friday’s post in on time. Why the pressure on myself? Well first off its not pressuring myself, writing, taking beautiful photos, editing, thinking, setting deadlines, dressing up for an OOTD – makes me feel good about myself. Plus I LOVE the feeling of accomplishment and staying motivated is a huge goal for me over the next year. Okay now that THATS out of the way…. :)
Mother’s Day 2017 was ahhh-mazzzing! I got the sweetest potted seedling from Miss S (c/o her preschool class) and a gorgeous pendent necklace (similar to what I posted here). Plus I got treated to alone time in the bathroom (I know such a luxury), Breakfast in bed with the cutest homemade gift from the Mister and Miss S (and of course Miss El).
I listened to the most refreshing podcast episode this morning about parenting your little ones at typical summer events (such as weddings and grad ceremonies – both of which we will be attending in the coming months). I would love if my kids could take every nap in the own bed/crib and don’t have to nag them to eat their meal – but having friends/family and the related events doesn’t always lend itself to the perfect parenting situations :) Plus the mister and I are on the go ourselves (between corporate careers, working out, schooling, night outs etc) so I am glad that I stumbled upon the episode to remind me to keep perspective and plan!
The 3 important things to remember:
- know you child’s tolerance level (a kid will only act in a way she is programmed for their age and it’s on me as a parent to adjust to that thinking)
- come prepared with loose parts that allow for quiet yet active place (lol sounds scary but each parent knows their child’s safety level so some items that were suggested are feathers, scarves etc)
- don’t apologize for your kids behaviour (somewhat related to 1 above)
Hope everyone had a wonderful Mother’s Day weekend!
Wow I can’t believe I’m starting another kiddo update series.
The last month has been so great and so challenging at the same time. And at times, I get stressed and call the Hubz (at work no less) in a panic but I also keep reminding myself to have perspective because the days are long but the years are short.
Miss El is 1 month old and most of her day is spent nursing, in someone’s arms, in a sling or sleeping. As of late she’s started to use her hands to feel/bat at things discovering textures, our skin, random parts of her toys. She is also a snuggler! She will burry her head into the nook between my head and shoulder and always makes herself comfy when she wants to listen to my heartbeat on my chest.
She instantly knows when Miss S is beside her or
squeezing her too hard giving her a hug. I sense she knows who her sister is. It’s very interesting to see them interacting (simple things like looking into each others eyes) – which is surprising to me because I didn’t think there would be much interaction at this age.
She gets a ton of kisses, hugs, finger jabs and hair pulls (all out of love – I hope!) from her big sis who just can’t wait to play with her.
Miss S (2.75 years) | Miss El (3 weeks)
Another thing about our Miss El is that her lips shape up into a smile more than I thought a newborn could. As hard as its been in the last month, seeing that makes everything more manageable. (South Asian culture says that when a baby smiles they are remembering their past life. I like to think she recognizes us and is happy to see us)
Along with all those smiles is a lot of crying and night wakes. So it balances it out I guess! (haha)
I realized I have a few long lost #OOTDs from the last nine months so I figured I’d share them.
I didn’t buy much clothes this time around and with the cold weather I almost only lived in maternity pants or leggings.
There is something that has been on my mind: I think there are some women who are born with the “mom gene”. And then there are women (like me – ok I hope like me) where motherhood takes a little more time.
Even though I already have one kid (so I should know what’s coming) there are still some things I don’t remember, that were unexpected or things that were down right difficult!
Almost 7 months pregnant in this picture
I, like most people, could easily sing a sad song about it (and sometimes that is what I do) but I believe that it would be a better use of my time and energy to think about how I can turn myself around. The days are long but the years are short as they say. So I thought I would talk about what I do to make me more confident as a person and as a mom.
1. Fake it till you make it: My number one go-to when I am confused and lost about what I am suppose to doing for a particular mom task, for a certain day or life general LOL. I am a believer in just putting your head down and getting through what you are dealing with. But, if you need to take a minute to let the stress set in, than take that minute… but then move on. Put that energy, light and love into doing/attempting to do what needs to get done….if the time is there and it’s going to pass you anyway – it’s best to keep doing.
2. Take time for yourself: This is such an important idea. #SelfCare for mom’s especially is a must and priority every damn day. Whether that means taking a shower, working on your craft, going for a walk, getting your nails done etc. Take time EVERYDAY for yourself. I myself like to make sure my nails are on point, I do something creative (photograph or write) and if I am feeling really ambitious check some things of my personal to do list!
3. Spend time with your kids: Being a mom is no joke. There are diaper changes, daycare germs, dinner time, reading the same books 100 times, discipline and a million routines. All of this can really make you feel exhausted (especially on a good day). But outside of this, being a confident mom can take more shape when you spend quality time with your littles. It builds a strong bond and also allows you to learn them inside out (and not within regular mom duties). I like to be completely present when we are having dinner, reading books before bed or playing with my kiddo when she gets home from pre-school (essentially that means she has my complete attention!)
3. Let go of the #momguilt: I am GUILTY of this (pun intended). There was some things I didn’t take into consideration when baby # 2 would arrive. Like conflicting nighttime routines and nursing schedules. This literally made me feel like $h!t because I couldn’t be there for my big little when my little little needed me. That – along with some other unexpected stuff… and in sets the mom guilt. Mom guilt is all consuming so I had to let go of that real fast – for myself and for my kids.
4. Forget the audience: This time around we got to spend more time as a family and a new family of four. Which turns out to be super important, especially as you need time to figure out your new normal. Having people around will only delay your family bonding. So set boundaries and be selfish with your time. Thankfully we were more aware of our obligations and expectations (being South Asian and all) and planned accordingly.
5. Make your own decisions: Advice comes fast and furious and doesn’t stop just because your kid is applying to university programs. If you are wishy washy about decisions people will force their opinions on you. Find a “statement” (read: rebuttal) that works for you and use it. Even if your decision doesn’t work out initially you can try something else without having to let anyone know – you are doing what works best for you and your family.
Last thing I wanted to say (and maybe more so as advice to myself) is simply to OWN IT. We all make decisions and sometimes the journey is tougher than we expected. The best thing we can do is stand up and keep going. Because there is always someone watching :)
I thought I’d do a life lately post for memories sake. Although we take a lot of photos on our phones I have to really work on taking photos with my big camera. Second to that I really have to work on printing those photos. I am so guilty of taking photos and hoarding them on a single storage device. Hence why I’ve started sharing more on this blog. At least I’ll have these posts for memories sake.
Adding another kiddo to the fambam is a no joke. (LOL – read nervous laughter!!)
Bringing one child into the lives of two adults is nothing compared to having a second. With your first, your whole world revolves around the one child and then you all of sudden you have to share/split your energy, time, tasks, responsibilities between two – it’s a real game changer.
Although I’ve been told after you have two you could have ten no problem… LOL!
Miss S is really into Miss E. She’s all about the kisses, finger hugs, feeding with bottles, helping to get things, telling me that Miss E is biting me lol etc. Although as now a mom of two, I have felt and seen a sting from my older little towards me and the Hubz. We are doing our best to spend as much time with her and even giving her special “day-dates” with either both or one of us so I am hoping that this is a phase and it will pass soon.
I have been balancing quite a bit – but I actually feel good about it. Along with the responsibilities of a growing family, I am trying to be more active on my social media channels, making plans for growth here and also finishing up a course I am enrolled in. So yes a babe on the hip and studying is a real thing for me right now.
That said, I am trying to rest as much as possible and listen to my body as well. I did make it out for a lunch run with the Hubz the other day. It felt good to get out wear something cute and freeze our butts off in this prolonged Canadian winter :P
And of course I am spending tons of time cuddling a newborn. It definitely feels different this time around. Maybe because I have more knowledgable or maybe because I don’t have enough time to think about things because we are literally in survival mode some nights :)
As with the last time, I am nursing and pumping. It provides me the closeness as well as the freedom that I need as a woman and a momma :)
Spring is here and I am completely in the mood to refresh my routine and start wearing some lighter colours. Also planning on #babywearing for some neighbourhood walks :)
In April I plan to setting up 3 daily to-dos to keep myself inspired and motivated as my mat leave really begins. Things like:
- getting out for a sling walk with Miss E
- going to the library program
- getting to a mommies group
- also adding more to the blog and etsy (more photography, more inspiration and maybe some vlogging/videography)
- Scheduling Posts (blog and social channels)
- Change my nail polish, straighten my hair or do a facemark #SelfCare!!
Some other things I was thinking about is:
- Writing out the birth story (if anything for memories sake)
- Printing some photos
- Reading more books!
- Working on some new projects and mentorships
- Working out again (really looking forward to this)
- Painting, Planting and Knitting :)
- Figure out my #The100DayProject project #SoExcited