My fav quote from “What I talk about when I talk about running”

I recently read “What I talk about when I talk about running” by Haruki Murakami. If you are runner, I’m sure you’ve stumbled upon this as a book to add to your TBR. I found it beautiful! Haruki Murakami’s stoic sharing of running as an act of meditation, resiliency and goal setting completely resonated with me. And because he took those themes and applied them to being an artist (him being a writer) was the icing on the cake for me.

The book is a very easy read and can be easily finished in a day. For me, books really come alive when they have ah-ha moments – really good quotable parts of the text that make me stop and write down what I read. Here are a few of those moments (and moments of me running as well!)

Commute & Read (Library Books as much as possible)

The most important thing we learn at school is the fact that the most important things can’t be learned at school.

I’m the kind of person who likes to be by himself. To put a finer point on it, I’m the type of person who doesn’t find it painful to be alone. I find spending an hour or two every day running alone, not speaking to anyone, as well as four or five hours alone at my desk, to be neither difficult nor boring. I’ve had this tendency ever since I was young, when, given a choice, I much preferred reading books on my own or concentrating on listening to music over being with someone else. I could always think of things to do by myself.

Say you’re running and you think, ‘Man, this hurts, I can’t take it anymore. The ‘hurt’ part is an unavoidable reality, but whether or not you can stand anymore is up to the runner himself.

People sometimes sneer at those who run every day, claiming they’ll go to any length to live longer. But I don’t think that’s the reason most people run. Most runners run not because they want to live longer, but because they want to live life to the fullest. If you’re going to while away the years, it’s far better to live them with clear goals and fully alive than in a fog, and I believe running helps you do that. Exerting yourself to the fullest within your individual limits: that’s the essence of running, and a metaphor for life.

Sometimes taking time is actually a shortcut.

Being active every day makes it easier to hear that inner voice.

I just run. I run in void. Or maybe I should put it the other way: I run in order to acquire a void

43 lessons for my 43rd birthday

A few weeks ago I celebrated my birthday and realized that it’s been a while since I’ve done a birthday post! (ok almost 10 years ago)

So in celebration of my 43rd birthday, here are 43 lessons that have provided me with guidance, disciplined my days and provided motivation when I needed it most <3

  1. Energy is everything
  2. Everything is multiplied by gratitude
  3. Know that it will turn out better than expected
  4. Your mindset is the gateway to every transformation
  5. People aren’t thinking about you, they are thinking about themselves
  6. You are free to reinvent yourself at anytime
  7. Friendships change. Nurture the ones that feel like growth and remember not everyone grows with you
  8. Stop relying on external validation
  9. Laugh more
  10. Your standards above everything (decide your future and teach others how to treat you)
  11. When you feel lost, ask yourself “what would my most abundant/higher self/happiest self be doing”
  12. Protect your piece (because if it costs you your peace, its too expensive)
  13. When others judge, it’s based on their own lived experiences and biases
  14. Healing is a journey (it isnt pretty and it doesnt mean you won’t be triggerd – because you will be, but it’s worth it every time you act from a place of self awareness and compassion for yourself and those who may trigger you)
  15. Trust your intiution
  16. If you aren’t willing to risk the unusual, you’ll have to settle for the ordinary
  17. Find a spiritual practice that works for you
  18. Don’t expect from others what you can’t do for yourself first
  19. Clean up what you consume (offline, online, people, experiences, drama – becomes who you are)
  20. Stop watching mainstream news
  21. Confidence is actions first, feelings later
  22. Travel to learn more about the world and yourself
  23. Everything in moderation, including moderation
  24. Embody your feminine power
  25. Train your inner dialogue (Mirror self talk is the best way to start your morning, you can still be humble and hype yourself up)
  26. Embarrassment is the ticket to evolution
  27. Let your be mentored by your highest self
  28. Put yourself out there
  29. The life you love will look very different than what you thought
  30. Celebrate your own damn self (buy yourself the flowers, always have chilled champagne in the fridge, give yourself the 5 love langugaes)
  31. You don’t get what you want, you get what you are
  32. People will behave from the level on consiousness they are at
  33. Keeping promises to yourself is the first step in building confidence
  34. Every situation is an opportunity for growth
  35. Ego is loud, confidence is silent
  36. Compliment yourself daily (Dress confidently, the world benefits when you show up as your boldest self)
  37. Upgrade your self worth (You get what you believe you deserve)
  38. You get what you identify with not what you desire (self concept over everything)
  39. If you want better friendships, be a better friend to yourself – the right people will feel like peace, not performance
  40. feelings of shame keep you focused on your identity, accountability keeps your fixed on what you do
  41. take yourself out on solo dates
  42. It’s not about being busy, but doing the work that aligns with YOUR goals
  43. Detach from outcomes, fall in love with the journey instead

QUICK & EASY breakfast quiche!

A few years ago my husband and I watched Suits. Truth be told, we watched it more for our personal amusement of identifying Toronto Landmarks. However, this was also the time I learned about Meghan Duchess of Sussex. This was right before she joined the Royal Family but more the creative mind behind The Tig.

I love me a good lifestyle and fashion blog but I only caught a glimpse of The Tig, before it was taken down because Meghan became a Duchess.

But alas I digress. Well not exactly! I recently watched “With Love, Meghan” and she made a quiche. It actually inspired me to do the same. So I did what any other millennial middle working mom – went to tiktok to find an easier version of the hard to make recepies that I know I’ll never make.

Enter this quick and easy crustless quiche! Read below and enjoy!

Ingredients:

  1. 1 Large Tortilla
  2. 4-5 Eggs
  3. 1.25 cups of cottage cheese
  4. Chopped veggies of choice (I have leftover: red pepper, asparagus)
  5. Cilantro
  6. Garlic Pepper
  7. Salt and Pepper to taste
  8. Shredded cheese

Steps:

  1. Preheat oven at 375 degrees
  2. Spray pie pan with olive oil or butter
  3. Shape tortilla into pie pan
  4. Mixing all ingredients except cheese and pour into pan lined tortilla
  5. Top with cheese
  6. Bake for 30-35 min
  7. Let cool, slice and enjoy!

Evening Skincare Cocktail

Creating a skin care routine is the best thing I’ve done for my skin and my self care routine. After a few months of experimentation I’ve been able to find a combination of vitamins (in the form of serums) to help my skin restore, replenish and rejuvenate over night.
…Enter my evening skin care cocktail ;)

I like to switch up the products to address different aspects of skincare. Doing this is actually called “skin cycling”

Multi Peptides + Copper, Hyaluronic acid, Multi Peptide Lash/Brow Serum, Creamy Eye Treatment, Water Cream

Beauty Elixar, Nacinamide, Retinol, Ultra Hydrating Night Mask or Dewy Skin Cream

Nacinamide, Hyaluronic Acid, Caffeine Solution (eyes), Eye Repair cream, Hyaluronic Moisture Cream

I like to use both mid level and drug store products. But finding what works did take some trial and trial. ;)
Adopting a skin care routine is a personal practice. What I love about my routine is that it isn’t a 20 step routine. Some days can be a little more elaborate, but I always have this 5 minute routine for my every day!

Prep for 2025 with me!

I love a new year because I love a fresh start. But a fresh start can happen any time. It can happen on a clear weekend, or a Monday morning. It can happen happen on a Friday afternoon, when school starts, or the new financial fiscal and the start of a new month. But a fresh start and some inspiration go a long way. Sharing some ways to prepare for the new year, following the 4Ms method: Mind, Money, Mouth & Mood

:: Mind ::

  • Continuous Learning
  • Regular Journalling
  • Make time for Creativity
  • Practice Mindfulness
  • Digital Detox

:: Money ::

  • Create a monthly Budget
  • Have a No-Spend day
  • Track your spending
  • Build your Savings
  • Create an investment account

:: Mouth ::

  • Reach for veggies & fruits first
  • Drink 3L of water
  • Eat enough protein
  • Limit Sugar
  • Track your food (calories or macros)

:: Mood ::

  • Be Grateful
  • Take Nature Walks
  • Practice Breathing Exercises
  • Have a good sleep routine
  • Find reasons to smile
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Book Review: Upgraded

I’ve been a reading slump for a few months now mainly because I felt like I’ve been reading too many non fiction books.

I usually set a reading goal for myself every year. I definitely aim high. But this year I’m not confident in getting to that goal. I’m about 40% there with only about 20% of the year left. That means I’d have to finish a book every 1.5 weeks. Seems daunting.

I know I could reach that goal reading a whole bunch of fluff that are easy to get through, but for me – reading is a way to knowledge. So even my fiction books have to teach and inspire me in some way.

So, atlas …I persist.

I do want to share this amazing fiction book I recently read. (I borrowed my book from Vaughan Public Library system because I love libraries (and sustainability).
*needs a totebag with that phrase on it*)

Upgrade by Blake Crouch is about a near dystopian future where science has taken on a twisted yet believable turn “DNA editing”. The story weaves between a son (who works for a FBI like agency looking to prevent corrupted gene editing), his sister and his mother (a science genius pushing the boundaries with hopes of saving the earth). There is a lot of scientific jargon (naming of genes etc) with enough depth to help me understand the characters knowledge but also confusing at times (I glossed over that). Blake Crouch is an author that can create drama, intrigue and action to capture the reader’s attention and also help the reader read faster (lol if that makes sense). Since I don’t want to give away any spoilers, I’ll end off here with saying I give this a 5/5 ⭐️

And if you need any further inclination, here are some of the quotes I annotated! Enjoy!

  • We were on the outskirts of the city doing 120mph. The dual electric motors were almost silent.
  • Parts of New York City and most of Miami were underwater, and an island of plastic the size of Iceland was floating in the Indian Ocean.
  • But it wasn’t just humans who’d been affected. There were no more northern white rhinos or South China tigers. The red wolves were gone, along with countless other species.  There were no more glaciers in Glacier National Park.
  • We had gotten so much right. And too much wrong. The future was here, and it was a fucking mess.
  • I had extraordinary dreams and an ordinary mind.
  • I wanted to actually do something, you know? It’s the difference between designing a house and building the thing.
  • Memories were coming back to me, and not just of every book I’d ever read. Random moments of insignificance. Pivotal events that had shaped my life. From a month ago. From a decade ago. From my childhood. It was an eerie sensation. As if someone were brooming out the dark corners of my mind. Wiping off the cobwebs. Repairing frayed connections.
  • “So you’re saying people are too stupid?” “Not just that,” Miriam said. “It’s denial. Selfishness. Magical thinking. We are not rational beings. We seek comfort rather than a clear-eyed stare into reality. We consume and preen and convince ourselves that if we keep our heads in the sand, the monsters will just go away. Simply put, we refuse to help ourselves as a species. We refuse to do what must be done. Every danger we face links ultimately back to this failing.”
  • I’d felt it that night and I felt it on this one-being with Kara quenched some evolutionary thirst. A primal, genetic need to belong to a tribe.
  • We were a bunch of primates who had gotten together and, against all odds, built a wondrous civilization. But paradoxically-tragically-our creation’s complexity had now far outstripped our brains’ ability to manage it.
  • While I waited for my food, I pulled out a small, leather-bound journal I always carried with me, flipped to the next blank page, and started a new letter.
  • You’re working off a flawed assumption. Higher intelligence doesn’t make you less greedy or self-centered or evil. It doesn’t necessarily make you a good person.
  • Right and wrong are constructs born of human sentiment.
  • Nothing but stories we’ve made up and assigned meaning to. They don’t correspond to any objective reality. The only thing real is survival.
  • Maybe compassion and empathy are just squishy emotions. Illusions created by our mirror neuons. But does it really matter where they come from? They make us human. They might even be what make us worth saving.
  • And I was struck, again, as an outside observer, by how much the members of our species needed one another. All these people out in the cold rain. To laugh and drink. To talk about nothing. It was almost as if that need for connection and touch was our … their … lifeblood.
  • “Consider this. For a time, Kara and I were the only upgraded humans on this planet. And what did we do? Immediately tried to kill each other over differences in belief. You got the upgrade and decided to help Kara release a virus that will lead to mass suffering and death. Doesn’t feel like intelligence itself is the answer. It terrifies me to think of a world where we have all the same problems, a billion less friends, and everyone thinks they’re smart enough to be infallible.”
  • “So you’d rather have no world at all?” “That’s a false binary. We are in trouble, but that doesn’t mean this is the only solution. Rejecting something that involves killing a billion people isn’t the same thing as sticking my head in the sand while the world burns.”
  • “You can’t kill humanity to save humanity. Human beings are not a means to an end.”
  • The temptation to swim over was strong. Barter for break-fast. See about getting a boat. But the commotion at 140 Broadway last night must’ve sounded like Armageddon. Anyone in the vicinity would have heard it, and me stumbling into their midst would only raise an alarm. So I settled for watching them from a distance-this forgotten fragment of humanity making a life together in the most inhospitable of places.
  • They seemed truly happy, and it made me happy to watch them—a thousand small kindnesses among people who had nothing to give.
  • We were a monstrous, thoughtful, selfish, sensitive, fearful, ambitious, loving, hateful, hopeful species. We contained within us the potential for great evil, but also for great good. And we were capable of so much more than this.