Stop chasing the like

**I wanted to post something but I didn’t know exactly what I wanted to write about.  So I’ll just do some free writing – here goes nothing.

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Well I can share that I listened to a podcast featuring an old friend (we met in grade 9 so were friend for over 15 years) that I distanced myself from about a year ago.  I feel bad that we haven’t been able to keep in touch and I am happy / proud of her for following her inner calling.  But I know in my heart we are in different places now (although we both have very similar thinking about certain subjects till this day).  The thing is – I am saying I am happy for her based on what I see in her social media pages slash what she projects of herself online.   I know that behind the scenes there is a lot of struggle and work.  In any case I wish the best for her as I know she would for me.

I am proud of myself for giving up chicken and bacon (oops might have forgotten to mention that here).  I feel better for telling my family (after keeping it a secret for about 2 months) but I realized it was time and everyday that I choose to fuel myself with less animal products, I am happier.  Eating plant strong/plant based encourages creativity in the kitchen.  And that’s one thing you should know about me by now – I love being creative.

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I want to buy pretty things but I love that I am not. (Ok don’t get my wrong, I do buy stuff but not all the stuff and more so out of necessity / less out of “I saw it I want it”).  Hence why my #OOTD shots feature all old clothes.

Although minimalism seems a little extreme, the principals behind the movement really speak to me and resonate with the direction I see my life going.  Yes this entire outfit is all old stuff from my closet. But I love that!

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Shorts (similar) | Button Up | Tanktop | Flip Flops

Instagram, branding, #sponsored posts etc all have a way of making me feel bad/guilty/inferior for not doing what the cool kids are doing.  But then I tell myself “self, what do you really want …you want to be creative and make things because that voice inside of you won’t rest until you’ve done something creative every damn day”.  For me it could be taking a picture, bullet journaling, make something new for dinner, painting or writing.

Other things on my mind: stop eating cookies, stop scrolling on my phone so much, cuddle the Hubz more, buy a new moleskin, write more if I am in the flow, finish reading a book, keep my morning journaling routine, find 2 minutes in the day to be still/meditate.

Yeaaaa! It’s Friday – see you on the flip side!

August Monthly Goals – revisited

About 2 weeks ago I wrote this post.  I was feeling a little panicked because some of the things I was trying to accomplish were not happening.  I hate that feeling of lost productivity.  Especially when you don’t have structured work time and are accomplishing things for yourself and not working for someone else’s goals.  The loss of productivity is a real de-motivator when are you feel passionate about the work you are doing / trying to finish but are getting things done.

But I realized I did something oh so wrong.

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A dream written down with a date becomes a goal. A goal broken down into steps becomes a plan. A plan backed by action makes your dreams come true.

This quote is by GS Reid and I found it a few weeks ago and posted it with this image on my instagram.   By the way if you are looking for a daily inspiration in the form of imagery and quotes you should follow me on IG #ShamelssPlug :)

Honestly the thought behind this quote is so powerful and it really speaks to me.  So I decided that I needed to revisit my August goals.

  1. Workout and finish my 12 week program by Sept 24th
    1. Plan out my weeks including the week we are away
    2. Drink lots of water
    3. Foam roll daily
  2. Bake a pizza crust ..honestly I would love to do this but it feels so forced taking it off for now / again
  3. Meditate twice a week (Thursday and Friday)
    1. Meditation can be as a long as 10 minutes or as short as 2 minutes
    2. Focus on visualization
  4. Finish reading my book (By Sept 15)
    1. Move ePub version of the book to my reader (by Aug 25)
    2. Read while nursing (as opposed to scrolling)
    3. Read 5 pages before bed
  5. Finish my Content Calendar for 2017 by Sept 3rd
    1. Use google sheets
    2. Plan to post 3 times a week
    3. Have a tab/page in planner for just ideas (easily accessible)

Wish me luck!

How do you get re-inspired to accomplish your dreams?

7 years of marriage + picture overload

If someone told me when I was 24 that in 10 yrs I will be celebrating 7 years of marriage.. I would probably give them a blank stare followed by a nervous laugh!  

But here we are… and we’ve accomplished quite the list:

  • 10 countries
  • 7 street races (me usually running 5 min ahead of the hubz)
  • 5 wedding reception performances (can’t believe he’s convinced me to do them)
  • 3 homes,
  • 2 MBAs
  • 2 daughters

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We actually had our first ALONE date in almost 5 months yesterday.  We went out to an Italian food resto (that would be a big drag bringing two kids to) and had a date like ‘old times’.  Here is a silly questionnaire we filled out while waiting for our food to arrive.

1) Who is older?
A: Me
B: Anuj

2) Who made the first move when we first met?
A: I did, oh wait you said when we ‘first met’ oh…
B: Me, tried to go in for a kiss and got shot down

3) Who studied the hardest in school?
A: Bhanu
B: Me

4) Who is smarter?
A: *points at Bhanu*
B: Anuj

5) Who is more creative?
A: Bhanu
B: Me

6) Who does more of the cooking?
A: Bhanu
B: Me

7) Who cleans more toilets?
A: Me
B: Anuj

8) Who said I love you first?
A: *looks down in embarrassment*
B: Me

9) Who spends more money?
A: Bhanu
B: Me

10) Where was our first kiss?
A: At Meeta’s wedding
B: Under the clock at distillery district

11) What date did we first meet?
A: uhhh dammit!…May 27?
B: May 27 2009
…we were both wrong it was May 20

12) Who is more likely to get lost getting back to the hotel while on vacation?
A: probably me
B: Anuj

13) Who hates driving in traffic the most?
A: Bhanu
B: Me

14) Who wears the pants in the relationship?
A: Both of us
B: Um loaded question I decline to respond

15) Who is better looking?
A: *points at Bhanu*
B: Anuj

16) Who talks more?
A: Bhanu
B: Me

17) Who says I love you more?
A: *points at Bhanu*
B: Anuj

18) What date did Anuj propose?
A: Sept 4 2009
B: Sept 19 2009

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Inspiring creativity in my kids

You know as a parent you are doing something creatively right (especially when it literally feels like chaos in the house 24/7) when you kid asks you to put the photograph you just captured on your camera in their room. But what exactly am I doing:  I am taking time to do something creative everyday.  Luckily my kiddos see what I do.

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We went on a stroller walk, which I turned into a photography walk because it ended up being the only chance I had all week to use my camera.  I’ve kept my 50MM lens on my DSLR for about a month now to create a constraint in hopes that it would allow my creativity to flourish within a restriction.  It has – and I am loving it.

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We had a great weekend, family dinners, breakfasts out, soccer practice, lots of coffee, peanut butter and jelly sandwiches and even a McD’s run (because we are so used to daycare taking care of lunches :P)

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My to-do list is long and already in play.  I even got started on some of my planning.

5 daily pick me ups

Mat leave is wonderful and hard.  The second time around it’s definitely more work. The first time around, I don’t remember ever making/preparing dinner before 5pm or doing dishes for that matter.  These days I am constantly multitasking and with that I fight for my personal time.  I need it for myself and for my family.

On the hard days, I want to remind myself on ways to pick myself up.  So here goes:

1. Consume something positive or uplifting: My go-tos are an inspiring Ted Talk, Pod Cast or listening to my summer play list.  I know I’ve been discussing and trying to understand #CreateMoreThanYouConsume but when the thing you are consuming is positive and uplifting I really believe it pushes you to create something.  You’ll have a smile on your face, you’ll be filled with inspiration or you’ll actually create something to deliver what you’ve learned.  Here, here and here are somethings I’ve consumed worth sharing.

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3.  Exercise: Whether it’s a stroller walk in the mall or run on the treadmill while the baby sleeps, stop procrastinating and do it.  The endorphins will kick in and you’ll have an automatic smile on your face.

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4. Journal: Right now, I have two journals of choice.  One for gratitude/intention/affirmations/positive thinking and another for day planning/bullet journaling. I use them to both start and end my day as well as keep me focused on things I want to accomplish.

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5.  Get Outside:  Fresh air does wonders.  Even if it’s only 5 minutes of sitting in the warmth of the sun.  The babe will be mesmerized by something in nature which will give you a few minutes to yourself :)

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OOTD + Watching Documentaries about Food

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I’ve watched too many Netflix documentaries over the last 3 months.  But they are so informative / horizon broadening that I can’t help myself.  (Some of which have been What the Health, Forks over Knives and In Defense of Food).

I know people don’t understand extreme food choices like veganism. And these movies and the overall thoughts behind these docus can seem a bit pushy (especially to people who like red meat).  But I’ve always thought about being vegetarian (and eventually vegan). It all started about 10 years ago when I read this book, but I kept my thoughts to myself.

The major theme of these docus has been food/health/environment; pretty much everything good in the world is pointing to a vegan lifestyle.  I’ve been dabbling in meals here and there that are vegetarian or purely vegan (i.e. no meat or dairy).  So far the meals have been satisfying and make me feel good (not necessarily in a ‘save the world’ kind of way but ‘wow, I’m cooking in a new and different way’ kind of way lol).  Additionally not having to deal with cleaning a cutting board and knives to avoid contamination has been a plus :)

The Hubz and I are in talks about our food choices.  But for now we are just talking and I am doing a lot of experimentation and personal recipe testing.  Would be lying if I didn’t say it wasn’t fun to challenge myself in this way.

Maybe we’ll do a 2 week trial to see if we can do a vegan diet in our home or maybe we’ll become weekday vegetarians.  Or maybe I’ll find it too difficult to give up cheese and chocolate.  I see lots of discussion and research in our future.