January Reads

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I’ve been trying to read 20+ pages a day which has really helped me to read more efficiently.  And because of that I managed to finish 2 books in a little over a month!  I’m trying to diversify what I read because I’ll normally read business/strategy/career books and get bored and not want to read for a while.  Or read thriller/suspense/fiction one after another and then I feel like I’m consuming without learning anything.  So to prevent that – I switch it up (ie: thriller, followed by business, followed by fiction, followed by self growth, followed by thriller etc).  It’s a good way to stay motivated and the habit of reading a certain number of pages of day helps too!  Read on to see my reviews :)

How Women Rise by Sally Helgesen and Marshall Goldsmith

This book had me nodding in agreement throughout!  The authors present 12 habits that women specifically do to serve them well earlier in their career – actually end up holding them back when they further their career.  What I really like about this book is that they talk about women-specific behaviours that I’ve learned also learned from other sources (like women not speaking up for their accomplishments).  The peer reviewed sense of it really made me feel like these things I do are common to all women and I shouldn’t feel bad.  More specifically, the habits of building relationships and never leveraging them or try to be perfectionists – I was immediately able to see the habit in me and other women I knew. With each habit, the book provided an example and actions to overcome it.  A great book and something I will reference and read again.

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Find How Women Rise at Chapters Indigo (Canada)

Such a quiet place by Megan Miranda

This book is about a close knit community and the strange things they know about one another and the efforts they go to preserve what they believe to be the truth about their neighbours.  The story reads well and although I wouldn’t say it’s a page-turner, it was definitely something that kept me engrossed.  Harper’s roommate is sentenced to 20 years in prison for a crime.  But her conviction is overturned which sends all of her accusing neighbours into a frenzy (and against Ruby).  Including Harper, who although believed Ruby to be innocent, but now wants to remain on the inside with her community.  There are twists, turns and random pieces of information that don’t necessarily add to the story but are still interesting info about the characters.  Definitely a great vacation ready!  *fingers crossed* we’ll be able to take vacations this year ;)

Find Such a quiet place at Chapters Indigo (Canada)

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Unlearn & Relearn + Books we are reading

The beauty of anti-racism is that you don’t have to pretend to be free of racism to be an anti-racist. Anti-racism is the commitment to fight racism wherever you find it, including in yourself. And it’s the only way forward. // Ijeoma Oluo

Racism has always been here.  But we’ve haven’t been forced to sit with it in this way.  And although I’ve talked to the girls a few years ago about the colour of our skin and acceptance (I think I felt compelled to after there was talk about cultural appropriation in the media), it really needs to be an ongoing conversation that will become more difficult with time.

I’ve read or watched so many articles and broadcasts on the topic so I am doing my best to unlearn what I now realize is not serving the people of society and relearn where I need to improve on.  I should say that this one started it all, and the others like this helped me realize what my privilege is.

Reading accounts of black people feeling uncomfortable driving their luxury vehicles or walking in their neighbourhoods.  Listening to biracial women who understand that having a white parent has offered them some privilege against their darker skinned colleagues or friends. And even more, realizing that white people are learning that they have no idea what black, indigenous or persons of colour (BIPOC) have to deal with.  It’s been very eye opening to say the least.

I think I have an obligation as a parent to make sure that I keep these conversations going.  We started reading these books last month.  I truly hope this keeps the lines communication open with our kids and they feel comfortable talking to us about what they see, hear or understand.  And for me, it’s making sure that I a step up and have those uncomfortable conversations when ever they need to happen.

Books, Teach kids about racism, the talk, race

The Colours of Us: A story about a child who wants to find all the right paint colours to paint pictures of her friends and family.  The child learns about the similarities and differences between us and that brown comes in different shades.
Youtube Read Along / Chapters / Amazon

Whoever You Are: A reminder to adults and children, that kids all over the world are experiencing the same joys, sadness, happiness and fears.  Regardless of where they are in the world or what they look like.
Youtube Read Along / Chapters / Amazon

Same, Same but Different: A story of two boys from the US and India who become pen-pals.  They share stories and pictures from their life.  They do all the same things (go to school, climb trees, live with their families) but a little differently.
Youtube Read Along / Chapters / Amazon

A kids book about racism:  A direct and open explanation about what racism is and what it makes people feel like.
Youtube Read Along / Amazon

Book Review – What I know For Sure

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A few weeks ago I finished the book “What I know For Sure” by Oprah. I really enjoyed reading it. It felt like I was reading the journal of an older sister or mentor. I felt like taking pictures of every paragraph or sentence of paragraph that gave me that “aha” feeling. I soon realized that I’d be taking more pictures than actually reading and appreciating the book.

I was never an Oprah fan. Well I wouldn’t say I am now either. I do watch the occasional Soul Circle video on Instagram and listen to an episode of her podcast here or there. I don’t think I would ever go to her live talks though (just because I am not the biggest fan of concerts and large audience events). But when a smart, successful, creative, mindful, ambitious, knows-what-she-wants-and-goes-after-it woman immortalizes her experiences and thoughts into a book – yep for sure I’ll be all over that.

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The book is all the wisdom Oprah gained from when she was very young to her current age. Life lessons, inspiration, revelations and thoughtful trinkets.  It’s the kind of book that I’d want to buy (yep I borrowed it from the library) and fold page corners, highlight and bookmark so much of this book because the advice is relatable and genuine.

Here are a few lines that I want to share:

On reading…

I now consider reading a good book a sacred indulgence. […] What I know for sure is that reading opens you up, exposes you and gives you access to anything your mind can hold.  […] Reading gives you the ability to reach higher ground.  And keep climbing.

On Resiliency…

The only way to endure the quake is to adjust your stance.

On Gratitude…

What you focus on expands. When you focus on the goodness in your life, you create more of it.

On doing your life’s work…

I’ve come to believe that each of us has a personal calling that’s as unique as a fingerprint – and that the best way to succeed is to discover what you love and then find a way to offer it to others in the form of service, working hard, and also allowing the energy of the universe to lead you.

 

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Fall back into Action!

“Soar, eat ether, see what has never been see; depart, be lost, but climb” // Edna St. Vincent Millay

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I love September!  Fresh start, crisp mornings, new recipes, tall boots, beautiful fall photography :)

September has always felt like the start of a New Year of Learning. And although I no longer am in school or formal education, it’s important for me to remember that I should continue to grow and learn. I try to do this as often and as easily I can by: doing new things, reading books, listening to podcasts/Ted Talks or simply by changing my perspective to understand a topic more deeply. I often forget that it’s okay to feel overwhelmed or confused some days.  It’s on those days that I need to take a time to rest and recover but also not forget to keep my goal in mind and continue to scale that mountain.

I am taking this this upcoming month to fall back into action!  I want to get back into good routines and stay focused.  I put together this checklist to keep me motivated and ahead of my goals as we move into the colder months!

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Book Review – Linchpin: Are You Indispensable?

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This book was over hyped for me (thanks to the internet/social media/online influencers) and unfortunately I was not impressed.
There are some important thoughts and gems of advice but overall the book “shipped too early” 😆

It needs to have an edition review and some parts can be removed. Seth Godin knows that this book may not be well received and or believable to some readers and tells us at the start that those who have had enough should skip to chapter 10.

But for the sake of finding the learning from every experience, I will share the points/topics that really resonated with me:

“Do not internalize the industrial models.  You are not of the myriad interchangeable pieces, but a unique human being, and if you’ve got something to say, say it and think well of yourself while you’re learning to say it better” – D. Mamet

To me this essentially means you need to find a new path for your career journey.  The standard career path of the past will no longer work.  Furthermore, everyone should bring their real self to their work and to their career.  I tend to agree with that.  You will feel more empowered and your career with align with your purpose when you are more true to yourself and those around you.

Combination of engaged employees, cutting edge products and fun brings people (customers) back

I think this quote is pretty powerful – especially as I can only count on one hand corporations who operate like this.

Win by being faster, more remarkable and more human.

It’s hard to be faster, remarkable and more human when you are surrounded by red tape, bureaucracy and hierarchy.  But I can see this being useful and motivational for start ups and entrepreneurs.

TGIF workers are PERL workers

Although this idea was brought up with respect to the typical factory worker, the percentage of easily replaceable labourers (PERL) are the type of people who live for Fridays.  If you take pride in your work and even more so are willing to work on your passion projects during your free time – you don’t fall into this group.  It’s the people who live for Fridays as an escape from their work life that have the to make a change.

Other people have survived th corporate school system, survived their fist job, have survived a mother in law telling them what to do — and have done the challenging work to become indispensable

Best advice!   Everyone survives.  And so can you (and me!).  We can move up and onward.  We can push through our current situation or get out – either way we are successful.  Most important thing to remember – you always have a choice.

Job where you do more than follow instructions – not something they taught you in school.  Job where you take intellectual risks, prepare to be promoted

The world of work is really changing.  And not just the actual job part but the types of work you do, the hours you work and the type of employees / cohorts.  If climbing the ladder is your end game – this is good advice.

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Except the genius label

We are all genuses!  This book is really about getting rid of the conspiracy of previous generations:   That you need to JUST PUT IN THE TIME at a job.  That your CREATIVITY DOES MATTER.

The new american dream: Be remarkable, be generous, create art, make judgement calls, connect people and idea

The problem lies with the system that punishes artists and rewards bureaucrats

Geniuses make art.  They make judgement calls. Connect people/ideas. Find a new way of getting things done.  Work is a chance to art.

Whether its your 9-5, your entrepreneurial pursuits, a creative passion or your career journey – think of your work as a way to do and make art.

Poverty Mentality: If I give you something, it costs me what I gave you.  The more you have the less I have.  The more I share the more I lose.

I absolutely LOVE the though process behind what is known as the OPPOSITE of the poverty mentality aka the ABUNDANCE mindset.  I think I lived most of my life in the poverty mindset and it is the most debilitating mindset ever.  As soon as you thing with abundance, you are set free.

Great bosses and world class organizations hire motivated people, set high expectations and give their people room to become remarkable.

If you’ve ever had a bad boss or left a company because of a bad boss – this statement must ring true for you.

Ishita’s Meditation

Google it! – it’s always a choice!

What do you do when your art doesn’t work – make more art. If you give up and become a cog you are failing.

This statement pretty much sums up the entire book.

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What’s in my cart – Books Edition

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I normally read books on my e-reader or borrow books from the library.  But I do this so that I only buy books that really touch me and inspire me so much so, that I NEED to have them in my house at close proximity at any time.  I don’t like busy shelves with books collecting dust so I am very selective with my books!

I’ve ready 4.5 of the books above. One that has sparked my interest and there other I read during undergrad (required reading) that I just want to read again.